guys you’d want to get to know better and they are usually pretty darn good-looking, too.
THE SUBTLE ART OF KISSING
F ar, far more than you hear people criticising sex, you hear them evaluating the simple kiss. Kissing is very important as it’s a trailer for sex. You know when you see a movie trailer for a film that looks terrible – you’re unlikely to pay £11 at the cinema for the full feature film? The same is true of kissing and sex.
Kissing is all about LIPS: L ocation, I nsertion, P ressure and S aliva.
LOCATION: You shouldn’t be surprised to learn that you should be aiming for your partner’s mouth, or more precisely lips. However, what might come as a surprise is how many people fall at this first hurdle. ‘Face eating’ is a big problem in our society. You expect a partner to kiss your lips and before you know it, your nose, eyelids, ears and chin are covered in drool.
Talking you through a good kiss is difficult. In simple terms you need to part your lips slightly and massage the top or bottom lip of your partner between yours. This sounds hideous, but feels lovely, I promise. The goal is not to dock with your partner’s mouth. It’s about the lips.
You can gently kiss your partner’s neck or earlobes, but I’d suggest anywhere else, facially speaking is a bit weird. Never have I heard anyone say, ‘then he kissed my eyebrow and I was in ECSTASY!’
INSERTION: The amount and duration of tongue action varies wildly between individuals. Some people just aren’t keen on ‘French Kissing’, as precisely no one calls it any more. I would suggest that NO ONE wants a big, fat tongue thrust halfway down their throat.
Where is our happy medium? Most kissers enjoy a bit of tongue-touching and it’s usually pretty easy to follow your partner’s lead on this. If in doubt, GENTLY pop a bit of your tongue into their mouth and brush against their tongue. While experimenting with a bit of tongue action, don’t forget that you should be paying more attention to their lips.
PRESSURE: A good kiss should feel neither like saying goodbye to an elderly relative or being hit in the face with a lust truck. It’s all about pressure, or the force applied to the lips. The amount of force you should apply varies according to a number of factors.
THE EQUATION LOOKS LIKE THIS:
So let’s say you’re feeling 10 horny, but you’re in a park so that’s only a 3 for situation and your partner’s feeling a bit gloomy so has a bad mood score of 8. So that’s 10 × 3 / 8 = 3.75. That’s going to be quite a gentle snog.
Compare that to an evening at home when you’ve just seen an amazing film and are both feeling horny – that’s 10 × 9 / 2 = 45! Game on! Passionate snog a-go-go!
Both types of kiss are GREAT and have their time and place. Not every kiss needs to be a gropey smooch-a-thon. The best boyfriend in the world would have a fantastic repertoire of soft, gentle kisses and hard and horny ones. More to the point he would intuitively know when to deploy each.
If unsure, start slow and build the passion if your other half seems receptive. Attacking a face like a bull in a china shop can be really hot, but it can also be greatly off-putting.
For the sake of EVERYONE IN THE WORLD keep your most passionate kisses to private places. If you insist on noisily licking your partner’s face in full public view, I assure you there is a special place in Hades with your name on it.
SALIVA: The goal of a good kiss should not be to deposit as much of your saliva as possible into your partner’s mouth. This is why limiting the amount of open-mouthed tongue action is advisable. Similarly, you shouldn’t really have to land much more than a delicate frosting to their lips. If you are getting dribble on their chin or cheeks, something is amiss. As long as you remember to swallow during kissing, you should be fine.
Get practising – above all else kissing should be fun. NEVER see kissing purely as an opening act to
THE SUBTLE ART OF KISSING
F ar, far more than you hear people criticising sex, you hear them evaluating the simple kiss. Kissing is very important as it’s a trailer for sex. You know when you see a movie trailer for a film that looks terrible – you’re unlikely to pay £11 at the cinema for the full feature film? The same is true of kissing and sex.
Kissing is all about LIPS: L ocation, I nsertion, P ressure and S aliva.
LOCATION: You shouldn’t be surprised to learn that you should be aiming for your partner’s mouth, or more precisely lips. However, what might come as a surprise is how many people fall at this first hurdle. ‘Face eating’ is a big problem in our society. You expect a partner to kiss your lips and before you know it, your nose, eyelids, ears and chin are covered in drool.
Talking you through a good kiss is difficult. In simple terms you need to part your lips slightly and massage the top or bottom lip of your partner between yours. This sounds hideous, but feels lovely, I promise. The goal is not to dock with your partner’s mouth. It’s about the lips.
You can gently kiss your partner’s neck or earlobes, but I’d suggest anywhere else, facially speaking is a bit weird. Never have I heard anyone say, ‘then he kissed my eyebrow and I was in ECSTASY!’
INSERTION: The amount and duration of tongue action varies wildly between individuals. Some people just aren’t keen on ‘French Kissing’, as precisely no one calls it any more. I would suggest that NO ONE wants a big, fat tongue thrust halfway down their throat.
Where is our happy medium? Most kissers enjoy a bit of tongue-touching and it’s usually pretty easy to follow your partner’s lead on this. If in doubt, GENTLY pop a bit of your tongue into their mouth and brush against their tongue. While experimenting with a bit of tongue action, don’t forget that you should be paying more attention to their lips.
PRESSURE: A good kiss should feel neither like saying goodbye to an elderly relative or being hit in the face with a lust truck. It’s all about pressure, or the force applied to the lips. The amount of force you should apply varies according to a number of factors.
THE EQUATION LOOKS LIKE THIS:
So let’s say you’re feeling 10 horny, but you’re in a park so that’s only a 3 for situation and your partner’s feeling a bit gloomy so has a bad mood score of 8. So that’s 10 × 3 / 8 = 3.75. That’s going to be quite a gentle snog.
Compare that to an evening at home when you’ve just seen an amazing film and are both feeling horny – that’s 10 × 9 / 2 = 45! Game on! Passionate snog a-go-go!
Both types of kiss are GREAT and have their time and place. Not every kiss needs to be a gropey smooch-a-thon. The best boyfriend in the world would have a fantastic repertoire of soft, gentle kisses and hard and horny ones. More to the point he would intuitively know when to deploy each.
If unsure, start slow and build the passion if your other half seems receptive. Attacking a face like a bull in a china shop can be really hot, but it can also be greatly off-putting.
For the sake of EVERYONE IN THE WORLD keep your most passionate kisses to private places. If you insist on noisily licking your partner’s face in full public view, I assure you there is a special place in Hades with your name on it.
SALIVA: The goal of a good kiss should not be to deposit as much of your saliva as possible into your partner’s mouth. This is why limiting the amount of open-mouthed tongue action is advisable. Similarly, you shouldn’t really have to land much more than a delicate frosting to their lips. If you are getting dribble on their chin or cheeks, something is amiss. As long as you remember to swallow during kissing, you should be fine.
Get practising – above all else kissing should be fun. NEVER see kissing purely as an opening act to
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