sex. Sometimes, in the desire for sex, it’s easy to neglect kissing, but this is a mistake. The thrill of a first kiss rivals any sex and it’s a great way to ease yourself into the idea of a sexual relationship. Enjoy it for what it is. A cheeky snog is a great way to pass the ad breaks on TV, too.
SEX VS LOVE
N ews flash: you don’t have to be in love to have sex. Never heard this before? That’s because you’ve probably been told that, ‘when you meet someone, you really, truly love, you will want to share something with them that is SO SPECIAL, a kiss just won’t do.’ This is true. Your body is the only one you have, so you should look after it the best you can. However it’s also true that sex always feels nice, whether you’re in love with your partner or not.
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Fact
Sometimes, sex is recreational.
That sound you just heard was the thud of prudes hitting the floor as they faint with moral outrage.
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So why haven’t you heard this before? Well, for one thing, teenage pregnancy rates around the world are too high. Even the most liberal among us acknowledge that having babies as teenagers is far from ideal for you or society. Accidents happen, but no adult is going to encourage you to have loads and loads of wild and free sex for the reasons listed before – babies and sexually transmitted infections.
Also, sex is tied to emotions, no matter what anyone says. There’s no such thing as 100 per cent ‘no-strings’ sex. However hard you might try, feelings always creep in because we ALL WANT TO BE WANTED. Being in a relationship IS the best way to have sex because AFTERWARDS you will feel better about it. All sex involves ‘exposing’ yourself emotionally and literally to a person. It’s much, much less daunting if that person is someone you like, trust and even love.
However, that is in an ideal world. It seems likely, sooner or later, you’ll have casual sex. Why? Because not every guy or girl you meet is going to be compatible in terms of a long-term relationship. To employ a weary old cliché – you really do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your princess or prince.
TAKING THE PLUNGE
S o you met a girl, or guy, you really like. You dated, you had a snog, you’re ‘official’. There’s a commitment there. Eventually it’ll get to the stage where merely kissing your partner is going to feel a tad redundant. Kissing is BRILLIANT and everything, but you might start to want something more. Remember, you’ll know you’re ready because you will really, really want to have sexyfuntime. If you’re content with kissing, then stick with that.
This is perfectly natural and all about the ‘curiosity’ I mentioned before. The lovely thing about sex in a relationship is that it feels very safe. Not safe from being stabbed or whatever, but safe in that it makes a potentially nerve-wracking situation less so. Think about it – you’re naked, you have to perform, you have to not cum in three seconds – there’s a lot happening and it’s so much better if you KNOW your partner isn’t going to laugh at the weird unicorn-shaped mole on your buttock.
Sex is meant to be fun. The best way of ensuring it’s fun is by doing it with someone you already have fun with, even someone you love. After all, a girlfriend or boyfriend is basically a best friend you have naked time with.
After millennia, this is still the IDEAL way to have a sexual relationship. A meets B, they date for a while, they have some sex. There are so many benefits to this type of relationship, from the companionship and security to spending whole blissful afternoons together snogging until you literally shrivel up from lack of saliva like a salted slug. (This won’t actually happen.)
NO-STRINGS
W hile being in a committed relationship is the IDEAL way to have sex, you must have by now realised that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. Sometimes you might meet a girl or a guy and think they’re hot and you
SEX VS LOVE
N ews flash: you don’t have to be in love to have sex. Never heard this before? That’s because you’ve probably been told that, ‘when you meet someone, you really, truly love, you will want to share something with them that is SO SPECIAL, a kiss just won’t do.’ This is true. Your body is the only one you have, so you should look after it the best you can. However it’s also true that sex always feels nice, whether you’re in love with your partner or not.
----
Fact
Sometimes, sex is recreational.
That sound you just heard was the thud of prudes hitting the floor as they faint with moral outrage.
----
So why haven’t you heard this before? Well, for one thing, teenage pregnancy rates around the world are too high. Even the most liberal among us acknowledge that having babies as teenagers is far from ideal for you or society. Accidents happen, but no adult is going to encourage you to have loads and loads of wild and free sex for the reasons listed before – babies and sexually transmitted infections.
Also, sex is tied to emotions, no matter what anyone says. There’s no such thing as 100 per cent ‘no-strings’ sex. However hard you might try, feelings always creep in because we ALL WANT TO BE WANTED. Being in a relationship IS the best way to have sex because AFTERWARDS you will feel better about it. All sex involves ‘exposing’ yourself emotionally and literally to a person. It’s much, much less daunting if that person is someone you like, trust and even love.
However, that is in an ideal world. It seems likely, sooner or later, you’ll have casual sex. Why? Because not every guy or girl you meet is going to be compatible in terms of a long-term relationship. To employ a weary old cliché – you really do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your princess or prince.
TAKING THE PLUNGE
S o you met a girl, or guy, you really like. You dated, you had a snog, you’re ‘official’. There’s a commitment there. Eventually it’ll get to the stage where merely kissing your partner is going to feel a tad redundant. Kissing is BRILLIANT and everything, but you might start to want something more. Remember, you’ll know you’re ready because you will really, really want to have sexyfuntime. If you’re content with kissing, then stick with that.
This is perfectly natural and all about the ‘curiosity’ I mentioned before. The lovely thing about sex in a relationship is that it feels very safe. Not safe from being stabbed or whatever, but safe in that it makes a potentially nerve-wracking situation less so. Think about it – you’re naked, you have to perform, you have to not cum in three seconds – there’s a lot happening and it’s so much better if you KNOW your partner isn’t going to laugh at the weird unicorn-shaped mole on your buttock.
Sex is meant to be fun. The best way of ensuring it’s fun is by doing it with someone you already have fun with, even someone you love. After all, a girlfriend or boyfriend is basically a best friend you have naked time with.
After millennia, this is still the IDEAL way to have a sexual relationship. A meets B, they date for a while, they have some sex. There are so many benefits to this type of relationship, from the companionship and security to spending whole blissful afternoons together snogging until you literally shrivel up from lack of saliva like a salted slug. (This won’t actually happen.)
NO-STRINGS
W hile being in a committed relationship is the IDEAL way to have sex, you must have by now realised that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. Sometimes you might meet a girl or a guy and think they’re hot and you
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