The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams Page A
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TURN ON YOUR MIND: Create a sensual atmosphere for lovemaking and use your imagination or erotic literature/film to explore your fantasy life.
STIMULATE MULTIPLE PLEASURE POINTS: Start with full-body caresses and move toward your hot spots: neck, ears, nipples.
FOLLOW THE WAY OF THE TONGUE: If with a partner, begin with cunnilingus. If by yourself, use a vibrator for stimulating your clitoris. Also continue stimulating your other pleasure points.
TEASE YOURSELF: With cunnilingus or with a vibrator, use the teasing technique of stimulating and backing off. Then have your first orgasm. Restart pleasuring yourself within thirty seconds.
GO, SPOT, GO: Move slowly to penetration. If with your partner, use positions that stimulate the G spot (for example, man from behind with the woman lying on her stomach). If by yourself, use a vibrator or dildo to stimulate your G spot.
USE YOUR PC MUSCLE: Contract around your partner’s penis or your vibrator or dildo, using whichever PC muscle technique feels good to you.
STIMULATE THE CLITORIS AND VAGINA TOGETHER: Continue to stimulate your clitoris during penetration.
ASK FOR A HELPING HAND: Tell your partner what feels good and what you need. Now ride your pleasure to another wave of orgasm. Congratulations! You are a multi-orgasmic woman.
Missing the Big Bang: Overcoming Anorgasmia
While Taoist sexuality is not nearly as goal oriented as our Western view of sex, it does appreciate the importance of orgasm for both our pleasure and our health. This section is for those women who are having difficulty experiencing the regular sexual pleasure that they want even after completing the exercises earlier in the chapter.
Our sexual desire waxes and wanes according to our overall health and the events in our life. However, women who have never been able to orgasm,
either by self-stimulation or with a partner, are considered to be “anorgas-mic,” or “without orgasm.” The good news is that at least 90 percent of women who have never had an orgasm will be able to experience one.
Practicing self-stimulation and learning where you are most sensitive is the key to becoming orgasmic. All sex experts on anorgasmia recommend doing exercises as described at the beginning of the chapter to explore and stimulate your body. You should do these exercises in a relaxed way for at least a week before going on to try to stimulate yourself to orgasm. For some women, just the chance to explore their body without the pressure of having to orgasm allows them to relax and increase their sexual energy to the point that they can orgasm when they do try.
Don’t forget about the importance of increasing your desire in a relaxed, sensual atmosphere. Consider using music, candlelight, erotica, movies, or literature as you feel comfortable. If after several weeks you are still unable to orgasm, consider buying a vibrator. The majority of women orgasm most eas-ily with stimulation of their clitoris with a vibrator. (Consult the Resources at the end of the book for a store or Internet site to help you choose a vibrator that suits you.) However, you can certainly try to stimulate other vaginal spots, as discussed previously, as well. Try other means of stimulation also, such as the showerhead or a hot tub jet.
For many women it is the inability to relax their body and/or distracting repetitive thoughts in their mind that keeps them from experiencing orgasm. Orgasm requires letting go of rational thought and letting your body move as it wishes without your conscious control. This release of control is difficult for many people in our society. The belly breathing technique that we learned earlier in the chapter (Exercise 7) is essential for relaxing your mind and body.
You should use the belly breathing technique whenever you begin to feel anxious or tense during your self-stimulation exercises. It will also help quiet nagging thoughts in your mind that distract you from your bodily
TURN ON YOUR MIND: Create a sensual atmosphere for lovemaking and use your imagination or erotic literature/film to explore your fantasy life.
STIMULATE MULTIPLE PLEASURE POINTS: Start with full-body caresses and move toward your hot spots: neck, ears, nipples.
FOLLOW THE WAY OF THE TONGUE: If with a partner, begin with cunnilingus. If by yourself, use a vibrator for stimulating your clitoris. Also continue stimulating your other pleasure points.
TEASE YOURSELF: With cunnilingus or with a vibrator, use the teasing technique of stimulating and backing off. Then have your first orgasm. Restart pleasuring yourself within thirty seconds.
GO, SPOT, GO: Move slowly to penetration. If with your partner, use positions that stimulate the G spot (for example, man from behind with the woman lying on her stomach). If by yourself, use a vibrator or dildo to stimulate your G spot.
USE YOUR PC MUSCLE: Contract around your partner’s penis or your vibrator or dildo, using whichever PC muscle technique feels good to you.
STIMULATE THE CLITORIS AND VAGINA TOGETHER: Continue to stimulate your clitoris during penetration.
ASK FOR A HELPING HAND: Tell your partner what feels good and what you need. Now ride your pleasure to another wave of orgasm. Congratulations! You are a multi-orgasmic woman.
Missing the Big Bang: Overcoming Anorgasmia
While Taoist sexuality is not nearly as goal oriented as our Western view of sex, it does appreciate the importance of orgasm for both our pleasure and our health. This section is for those women who are having difficulty experiencing the regular sexual pleasure that they want even after completing the exercises earlier in the chapter.
Our sexual desire waxes and wanes according to our overall health and the events in our life. However, women who have never been able to orgasm,
either by self-stimulation or with a partner, are considered to be “anorgas-mic,” or “without orgasm.” The good news is that at least 90 percent of women who have never had an orgasm will be able to experience one.
Practicing self-stimulation and learning where you are most sensitive is the key to becoming orgasmic. All sex experts on anorgasmia recommend doing exercises as described at the beginning of the chapter to explore and stimulate your body. You should do these exercises in a relaxed way for at least a week before going on to try to stimulate yourself to orgasm. For some women, just the chance to explore their body without the pressure of having to orgasm allows them to relax and increase their sexual energy to the point that they can orgasm when they do try.
Don’t forget about the importance of increasing your desire in a relaxed, sensual atmosphere. Consider using music, candlelight, erotica, movies, or literature as you feel comfortable. If after several weeks you are still unable to orgasm, consider buying a vibrator. The majority of women orgasm most eas-ily with stimulation of their clitoris with a vibrator. (Consult the Resources at the end of the book for a store or Internet site to help you choose a vibrator that suits you.) However, you can certainly try to stimulate other vaginal spots, as discussed previously, as well. Try other means of stimulation also, such as the showerhead or a hot tub jet.
For many women it is the inability to relax their body and/or distracting repetitive thoughts in their mind that keeps them from experiencing orgasm. Orgasm requires letting go of rational thought and letting your body move as it wishes without your conscious control. This release of control is difficult for many people in our society. The belly breathing technique that we learned earlier in the chapter (Exercise 7) is essential for relaxing your mind and body.
You should use the belly breathing technique whenever you begin to feel anxious or tense during your self-stimulation exercises. It will also help quiet nagging thoughts in your mind that distract you from your bodily
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