She's Asking for It! by Eve Kingsley

you think might inspire something sexy in the mind of your lover, but have you taken the opportunity to sit down and talk about it? What makes the scene sexy for each of you? Which elements can work together and which are best left for different experiences?
     
    Mind Over Matter
     
    On some levels, you may really have to overcome the limitations of your environment in order to make this work. If your living space is small, cramped, shared or even if it just has thin walls, you may be wary about having too much fun. What a shame! Do what you can to minimize the difficulties your living environment can cause and see how much your home cramps your style. If it’s really getting in the way, why not look for a new place if you rent, or make some renovations or functional changes to your home with your new activities in mind.
     
    Too Loud!
    Do you have kids in the house or nosy neighbors to contend with while trying to enjoy your sex life? Try house-swapping with friends, putting heavy fabrics (like on a four-poster bed!) between you and the walls to muffle the sounds, or just make sure he keeps his hand over your mouth. Put on some nice music, which isn’t just great to help mute out other sounds but can really help set the mood with some dancing to get you in the mood. The right soundtrack can make any sexual encounter go just the way you plan!
     
    Baby On Board
    If your kids are very young, the biggest obstacle may just be finding alone time when you’re not exhausted! Get a trusted babysitter (or loving grandparent) and a hotel room if you must. Just do what it takes to get some time alone. There is no reason you can’t play and flirt and enjoy each other with a baby at home, if you can find the time.
     
    If you have kids who are older and don’t want to hear your every move, arrange for them to spend the night elsewhere. There’s no reason you can’t tell them that the two of you want some alone time. Don’t be afraid to flirt a little and kiss in front of your kids – it’s healthy for them to see that the two of you really love each other! And it will ensure they are sufficiently grossed out to avoid any interruptions altogether.
     
    Bedroom clutter
    Stuff can be great to make a mood (more on that next) but it can also get in the way: that old sweat suit that feel so comfortable after a long day, the piles of dishes in the kitchen still to be done, dirty sheets or a floor scattered in toys, clutter on the table too important to be swept off in the heat of the moment, an office covered in a web of wires and cables. It all lends itself to stress, not sexiness. Feeling the need to clean your house before you try to get sexy can be a bit overwhelming some days, so try to make a pact that no matter what the state the rest of the house deteriorates to, your bedroom will always remain a safe haven from clutter. No mess, no stress!
     
    If you only have to tidy one room in order to set the mood for some great sex, let it be your bedroom. Keep the floor clear so you can move around freely, and keep the sheets untangled and covered in a throw to soak up sweat and other fluids for easy cleaning. Make sure the bedside tables are clear to make space for toys, lube, condoms, massage oil, candles, fruits and chocolate, water and wine. Set up some lighting that isn’t too bright or too dark, so you can really see each other. Prepare to enjoy!
     
    Matter Over Mind
     
    What kinds of things can you keep on hand that will not only help make you feel sexy to begin with, but help facilitate sex in the heat of the moment? What really gets you going?
     
    Can a hot shower, a change of clothes or an application of makeup turn you from bored housewife to smoking hot sexpot? Does mood lighting and music get you going, or do you just want to be swept off your feet at a moment’s notice, thrown into the pile of sheets on the bed and ravaged? If the latter is the case, you’ll want to be prepared beforehand with all your tools and