She's Asking for It! by Eve Kingsley Page A

toys on the bedside table, or tucked neatly away in the drawer. Do not forget condoms, don’t pass up the chance to use some lube when you can, and don’t hesitate to add some toys into the mix just to change things up.
     
    If you like to be wooed, take the time to relax together with a soothing bath, or exchange massages to some sensual music. Lay a towel or throw down on the bed to catch any extra oil, then lather on something soft, soothing and above all natural. Coconut oil and cocoa butter work quite well, even an extra virgin olive oil can be nice, although a bit messy. Learn how to create special scents using essential oils or simply soak your favorite flower petals in a bit of oil in the sun to absorb their scent and warm the oil.
     
    The things you use to spice up your sex life can be completely innocuous items that look like every day attire – clothes, candles, delicious foods, blankets and pillows, even some of the “sex furniture” sold at toy stores can pass as a cushion! If you have lots of fun toys and need to keep them private, just get a locking toolbox or other case and store it under the bed where it’s within easy reach.
     
    In The Mood
     
    We use the phrase “in the mood” a lot when we’re talking about sex, but what does that mean for you? I’m sure there are times when you can be in the mood for sex, but not in the mood for the kind of rough and tumble play that we’re talking about now. What determines how “in the mood” you are and what kind of mood you’re in?
     
    Many women will find that their desires for playing with an alpha male come cyclically, perhaps when they are ovulating. Men may find a hard day at work or a competitive game gets their juices flowing. Stress, excitement, even certain foods or smells can inspire feelings that lead you down this path. Pinpointing the things that do this for you and sharing them with your partner can help you both to set the scene for the other when the need or want arises.
     
    Getting to the point where you can communicate a desire to your partner without words and have it fulfilled in a seamless experience may take some time. Until then, it’s important to learn what to say and when to say it, even if it seems like it could be awkward. Words may have the ability to ruin the mood, but they definitely also have the power to set it on just the right path, if you know what to say when the time is right.
     

 
     
    Chapter 14 - Hot Talk and Magic Movies
     
    Now we’re ready to talk about the good stuff! Before we get rolling here, I would like to reiterate some important points we went over in the advice for women and the advice for men sections of this book. It’s really important to understand the basics, and this also will serve as a primer for you bad boys and girls who skipped ahead!
     
    A woman wanting her man to be more assertive or dominant in the bedroom is not a reflection on the relationship at all. While experimenting with alpha male tactics during sex might put a spark into your relationship, all in all this is simply about what goes on between the sheets.
     
    If either of you have read this book and your thoughts keep drifting back to instances in your day-to-day relationship where things might need some work, then stop here and focus on your relationship. You can come back to this book once your relationship is back to being a healthy and happy one. A broken relationship is no way to start experimenting.
     
    Similarly, this advice is not for new couples or for casual sexual encounters. There needs to be a trusting bond between you, and that comes with time and experience with each other. There is a lot of communication necessary to make this a successful sexual endeavor; anything less, and you risk being misunderstood at a crucial moment.
     
    One more time I’ll make it clear that this book is NOT about is BDSM techniques . That stands for Bondage (physical restraint) – Discipline (rules, regulations, protocol)