Sex Secrets of an American Geisha by Py Kim Conant

I’m coming. Baby, oh, baby. . . I’m coming.” (Talk to him as you come.) “You destroy me (with orgasms).”
As a general rule, be noisy in bed. As I said a few paragraphs ago, let him know that you are really into sex with him, that you are his enthusiastic lover. Tell him how good you feel. Moan. Breathe heavily. Scream. The ver bal feedback he gets from you not only lets him know he is pleasing you mightily, but also excites him and gets him harder. And it encourages him to give you even more cock (fingers, tongue), which will drive you even crazier, until you come and make him so happy. Beyond “happy,” your feedback makes him so proud of himself, so proud of his cock. You’ve made him feel fantastic as a man
With a Vibrator, Where Does the Credit Go?
The Younger Sister in training to be an Asian Geisha is instructed that she must follow the directions of her Older Sister Asian Geisha, even when the Younger does not understand why the Older is telling her to do certain things as part of her training. I hope you have noticed that I do not take such a strong position as to give you “directions.” Rather, I offer “sugges tions.” And I try to explain why I make certain recommendations. You probably understand and agree with my reasoning for giving away credit for your orgasms to your Good Man, and to do so sincerely and with enthusi asm. Remember that your Good Man always wants to feel appreciated by you, always wants to be your hero, especially regarding your orgasm and to tal sexual satisfaction and exhaustion.
I wish now to walk a step or two further along the Path to Giving Away Credit for your orgasms. You might, Younger Sister, ask me about a situa tion involving a vibrator or other sex toy. What do I do, you might ask, if I come wonderfully hard, perhaps even female ejaculate, on my Good Man’s cock, fingers, or tongue (or the three in some combination), but added to the mix of what made me come was a fantastic little (or big) vibrator that drove my clitoris into ecstasy and, truth be told, was the proximate cause of my coming so hard and satisfyingly? Help, you might say, what should I do about credit in that case?
This is an important question because I believe that vibrators (and dil dos and other sex toys, but especially vibrators) should be on your bedside table and always well-charged and available for your lovemaking (not neces sarily always used, but frequently). You want your Good Man to be com fortable with vibrators as you incorporate them into your sex life with him. A while ago my husband suggested to me that the old saying about dia monds being a girl’s best friend was wrong, that the truth is that vibrators are a girl’s best friend. I had to agree with him that I’d give up my diamonds long before I’d part with my Pocket Rocket vibrator. You know from mas turbating alone with a vibrator how wonderful they are as sex aids to bring you stimulation and orgasm. God, they’re fantastic!
What about credit for a vibrator-triggered orgasm? My answer is short, definitive, and covers all situations: “Never give credit to the plastic (or the rubber or the metal).” Instead, of course, always give full credit for your orgasm to your Good Man and his cock, fingers, or tongue. Although the vibrator will often (even most often, I should think) be there, in use, dur ing lovemaking, it receives zero credit from you for your excitement and or gasm. “Flesh” always gets full credit; “plastic” always get zero credit. You don’t want your Good Man to feel that his cock is in competition with your vibrator. Your Good Man is your lover; the vibrator is only your (and his) friend.
I certainly don’t mean that you should lie to your Good Man, and I don’t want you to give him credit so as to manipulate him into believing falsely that his flesh caused your orgasm. Instead, I suggest that you always, as a matter of your sexual policy, focus on your Good Man’s physical organs (his flesh) as