as she responds, we reward her efforts by acknowledging that we can sense her arousal increasing and by telling her that she is doing well. Before we even start touching her we inform her that we may use some suggestions or commands and that in response she really does not have to do anything; her body will respond correctly by sim- ply hearing the word “Relax” or “Take it higher.” We emphasize that she must not feel bad if we ask her to go higher, as it does not mean that she is not doing well, only that we want to take her to the next level.
Y More Instant-Orgasm Training Z
When teaching a woman student to get off instantly, we use certain direc- tives. We may tell her in advance that we will be using many short cycles to en- able her to feel more from the first stoke. We may start with parts of her body other than her genitals—maybe her thigh or nipple or the lips of her mouth. We may touch her only briefly or perhaps give her continual strokes. We may move our touches from place to place on her body, always saying in advance where we are going to touch next.
We may then, without touching her, hold our hand just above her genitals, getting close to the clitoris, and ask her to feel the focus and attention on her clitoris. We may proceed to touching her inner labia, perineum, or mons pubis (see Figure 1 on page 33), inform her what is coming next, and ask her to put her full attention on that area.
When eventually we do touch the genitals, avoiding the clitoris and cli- toral hood for now, it may be with a finger, or a lightly applied knuckle, or a whole palm. We may use a single stroke or stay in one spot and employ differ- ent degrees of pressure, continually communicating what we are doing and asking the student to feel that area. Then we may get out the lubricant, again
telling her what we are doing, and, using a finger, place some lubricant on her erectile tissue, such as the perineum or the labia minora. Or we may return to the nipple, playing with the application of lubricant there. The whole time, we ask her to feel the area that we are lubricating.
Once we have applied lubricant all over her genitals—still avoiding the cli- toris and clitoral hood—we may give her some additional strokes on the labia or other parts of her genitals, each time asking her to feel the stroke to the best of her ability. Now we move toward the clitoris. I sometimes like to use what we call the “Michael Douglas” stroke (see Figure 7), slowly approaching the clitoral shaft with the pad of my index finger and asking her to feel my finger as it gets closer and closer to her clitoris. (We call it the Michael Douglas stroke because it reminds us of how the actor, in some of his racier movies, would press women up against the wall during sex. He used his whole body and was acting out intercourse, while we use a finger against the base of the clitoris. We will describe this stroke and others in further detail in the next few chapters.)
Figure 7.
Pressing
against the
clitoral shaft,
or the “michael
Douglas” stroke
I tell her that I am approaching her clitoris—that I am almost there. I ask her again to feel me—and there is often a fairly strong orgasmic contraction when the finger does finally contact the clitoral shaft. It’s almost as if the entire clitoris is reaching out toward my finger. I tell her that was a nice contraction, I
back off, and then I restart the slow progression toward the clitoris, again con- tinually describing what is happening and what I expect from her.
As you can see, what we’re doing is combining words and touches to train the student to eagerly anticipate, to practically beg for, the very first clitoral touch, thereby greatly increasing the orgasmic sensation she will feel when we finally do get there.
Y Talking while Pleasuring a Man Z
A woman can play with a man’s penis in a similar fashion, describing what she is doing and telling him to focus his attention on her touch.
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