permission for major changes. Maintain eye contact as much as possible, and give reassurance. If you’re not sure of something, ask a question. Feedback and dialogue are great as long as you don’t extend that to distracting side talk. Above all, show your love and respect.
1. PREPARATIONS
Begin by tidying up, heating your room, taking a bath, and leaning back against a pile of pillows with your legs spread. Often, pillows under your knees make it more comfortable for extended play. Props you may want to collect are a speculum, mirror, flashlight, lubricant, towels, vibrator, and/or dildo. Use a soft towel or absorbent pad underneath to eliminate any self-consciousness about fluids wetting the bed.
2. SACRED SPACE
Use whatever actions and props you need to help you make your play space sacred. Carefully choose soothing sensuous music. Discuss the Partnering Questions before you begin.
3. TOUCH
Have your lover begin by slowly touching, caressing, and arousing you. Ask him or her to start at the perimeter and circle toward your vagina from your legs, thighs, face, neck, tummy, and breasts. Take your time and enjoy. Be sure to relax, breathe deeply, and make sounds that express what you’re feeling.
4. VULVA
Ask your lover to touch your vulva with a gentle loving touch. Giver, try circling around the perimeter and gradually coming closer and closer. Squeeze her outer lips between thumb and forefinger, and gently rub the outer lips together.
5. INNER VIEWING
If you have a speculum and you’re willing, let your partner view the different surfaces and glands within the vagina. Even if you don’t, you can spread your inner lips to reveal the outer third of the vagina. Ask your partner to examine the membranes and identify any of the different types of glands.
6. INSIDE VAGINA
Ask your partner to lick or lubricate a finger and slowly circle it as far as their hand will turn around the vagina’s opening in both directions from 12 o’clock (the top side) to 6 o’clock (the bottom side.) Do they feel different sensations at any clock position? Does their finger feel any differences in texture or shape?
7. DEEPER
With gentle touch, ask your partner to insert a finger another inch and repeat the circling motions, continuing to feel inside and out. Guide your partner to go deeper one inch at a time as far as possible while you both discover the different feelings and sensations. Combine in and out with circling strokes while moving deeper inside. Receiver, tighten your PC muscle so that your partner can feel the pressure on the finger in different positions. If their hand or finger gets too tired, encourage them to remove it, and shake out the tension before continuing. Whenever you decide the time is right, feel free to have them switch to using a vibrator or dildo.
8. TURN-ON
If you want, you can switch your attention to pleasure and enjoy yourself to the fullest. Guide your partner to continue doing strokes that really turn you on. Use supreme bliss cornerstones to intensify and spread sexual energy throughout your body. Though orgasm isn’t necessary, if you want to end with one, enjoy yourself.
9. COOL DOWN
When you’re ready to stop, be sure your partner knows to follow your lead. Do you want gradual slowing or to simply hold still? Whatever you prefer, ask your lover not to abruptly break contact. Instead, have him or her cup and hold your vagina with the palm of one hand, while their other hand is on your heart. Look into each other’s eyes, and breathe together.
10. CLOSING
Close your sacred space by talking about what happened and how it felt.
G-SPOT STANDS FOR GREAT
SO WHERE EXACTLY IS IT?
Just like us, we hope you’ve repeated the previous practices multiple times with great fun, pleasure, and learning. If you have, you’ve most likely discovered the supreme bliss of the G-spot, the erectile tissue inside the vagina under the lining of the belly-side wall. We call this the vagina’s
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