pretty/beautiful/stunning.”
“Your face is clear and symmetrical, indicating that you could successfully carry my genes. Let’s have sex.”
“You look gorgeous tonight.”
“I want to have sex with you as soon as possible.”
“Let’s be friends.”
“I don’t fancy you or I’m over you. Hopefully you won’t call or text me forty times a day leaving messages asking where I am.”
“You look hot in that outfit!”
“That clothing highlights your hips-to-waist ratio and makes your boobs stand out. This all fires up my brain circuits and hormones, and I want to have sex with you right now.”
“Like to come in for a cup of coffee?”
“Let’s have wild monkey sex while I’m half drunk and there’s no bright lights to highlight any defects you may have.”
“Let me get you a drink.”
“Let me loosen up your inhibitions with alcohol so maybe you’ll have sex with me.” The advanced version of this is “Have another drink.”
“I can’t stay late tonight: I’ve got an early start tomorrow.”
“Thanks for the sex. I’m out of here!”
“I want an open, honest relationship.”
“If I play up in the future, this line will let me say, ’Well, I said I’d be honest with you.’”
“I’ll call you/meet you after the club closes.”
“If I don’t get lucky tonight, I’ll have sex with you instead.”
“It’s not you … it’s me.”
“It’s you, so go away.”
As humorous as these lines are, the dilemma is that women fantasize to themselves that there is some truth behind them and most women encourage men to use these lines. Consequently, few women discover early whether a man is a serious contender for a long-term relationship. If women wereto decode these lines for what they really are, they could better separate the studs from the duds.
Men Seek Reproductive Value
Ancestral men placed their priority on women who were capable of bearing the most children, and this could be determined by two observable factors: youth and health. The younger a woman is, the more children she is capable of bearing. A woman’s reproductive value is high at age twenty, medium at thirty, low at forty, and nil by fifty. This is why today’s men have inherited from their ancestors a preference for younger women—because of their greater reproductive value. This is also why the younger a woman is, the higher risk she has of being raped. Statistics in the United States show that 85% of rape victims are under 36 years of age, and this is directly related to a woman’s reproductive value.
Universally, all men prefer their wives to be between two and four years younger than themselves, and the older a man becomes, the younger he prefers his women. In a study of the preferred ages men have for women, Professors Kenrick and Keefe found that men who are twenty prefer women who are age eighteen, a thirty-five-year-old male prefers a thirty-year-oldwoman, a forty-eight-year-old male prefers a thirty-year-old, and a man in his fifties wants a woman at least twenty years younger.
Instinctively, men seem to understand the relationship between resources and the ability to attract younger women. German ethnologist Karl Grammer studied a computer dating service involving 2,638 men and women and found that as men’s incomes go up, they seek younger women. For example, he found that a man who earned $15,000 a month wanted women who were five to fifteen years younger than himself, whereas a man who earned $1,500 a month wanted a woman up to five years younger. Each $1,500 per month corresponded to a decrease of one year in the desirable woman’s age. 4 In other words, men recognize that the higher their resources, the more mates they can attract and the higher their reproductive value will be. When a man is prepared to commit his resources to one particular woman, he increases his chances of securing a higher-quality mate because women who are desirable can hold out for the thing they want—long-term
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