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and you find yourself at a different level in the organization, you have to respond, act, and react differently in line with the new expectations. You have to mentally promote yourself to that next level.
“Ride the wave.”
Jackie Hernández, Chief Operating Officer of Telemundo
    When you’re in charge of a demanding project, you can pull back out of fear or you can grow into your new responsibilities and learn from the experience.
    My dad told me to face my fears and dive in. Toward the end of his life, he became very ill, and we would talk about work.One time he brought up the beach to make his point. He said, “You have to ride the wave or else it’ll knock you over.” That was a great piece of advice.
“Be open, but know your guardrails.”
Kathy Murphy, President of Fidelity Personal Investing
    You have to be willing to try new things. You also have to know where you stand and what you will not accept.
    Be open to new assignments—it’s the only way to grow. But you need guardrails—you need to know the things you want to do and things for which you have absolutely no interest or passion.
    In a previous company, I was asked to consider leading technology and operations, but it would have separated me from serving our customers, which is my passion. I knew I could add much more value in a job that was more closely tied to getting results for them. I quickly declined that job and have never looked back!
“Give feedback; it is a gift.”
Jill Campbell, Chief Operations Officer of Cox Communications
    Giving feedback is a way of paying it forward. Feedback can mean the difference between a person’s advancement or derailment.
    Even if it’s not something the other person wants to hear, you’re doing it because you want the individual to develop. You are not giving it from a point of meanness, but a place of respect.
“Pick your battles wisely.”
Charisse Lillie, Vice President of Community Investment of Comcast Corporation and President of the Comcast Foundation
    Every battle does not have to be fought. Every argument is not worth winning.
    You have to figure out which ones are important enough for you to take a stand. Take those two or three and really stick with them. Have a plan and then execute on that plan.
“Know your audience.”
Sandra Dewey, Executive Vice President and Head of Business Affairs, Turner Entertainment Networks and Cartoon Network Originals
    In order to get your ideas across you need to know where other people are coming from.
    You have to get into the mind of your bosses or your junior people—whether you’re talking to a group or having an intimate conversation. The more you practice this, the more effective you’re going to be.
“Let your passion lead you.”
Kim Lubel, Chief Executive Officer of CST Brands
    Being excited about what you do is what differentiates a dynamic career from an unfulfilling one.
    Don’t look for opportunities just to move up a ladder. You want to be passionate about what you do. I tell my daughters this all the time, “You need to love what you do; if you don’t, you’re not going to be successful. It’s just going to be a job.” We spend too many hours at work for it not to be a passion.
“Keep good company.”
Helene Lerner
    It’s important to have women in your life who support and honor your growth. Many of you may already have this, but if not, I encourage you to reach out to new people and mobilize that support for yourself. Gather a few women to discuss the ideas you’ve read in this book and do some of our exercises. You want to encourage each other to think bigger and take some smart risks. You’ll find a lot of tools on my website ( http://www.WomenWorking.com ). And use our social media pages for contacts and inspiration ( WomenWorking.com on Facebook, @WomenWorking on Twitter, and the WomenWorking group on LinkedIn).
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