Stand Strong: You Can Overcome Bullying (and Other Stuff That Keeps You Down) by Nick Vujicic
Authors: Nick Vujicic
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me. Since then I have been praying, reading the Bible, going to Bible study groups etc. Then one day I decided to get baptized to show my love for God and our Lord Jesus Christ and I have been a Christian ever since and do you know what my dad came to my baptism, said at the start he wouldn’t stay for the whole thing but he did. He stayed for the lunch, got to know/meet people who were there and he enjoyed himself. He hasn’t gone to any other services but I just pray that over time he will and so will the rest of my family, over time.
Looking back to what I have seen on some of the videos by Nick I see and remember just how wonderful God and the Lord Jesus is and that it doesn’t matter who we are or what we look like or what people may think about us, that we are special, we are unique and God loves us just the way we are.
Anna discovered something wonderful when she made the choice not to feel sorry for herself and not to be lonely anymore. She discovered that the first step to making friends is to be a friend to yourself. Accept that you have value, that you are worthy of love and trust. Know that God loves you so that you will never be alone or unloved, and then take that knowledge and self-acceptance and make yourself available. Let other peoplesee the wonderful person God created you to be. It worked for Anna, and it will work for you too!
Nick’s Notes for Chapter Six
Strong and supportive relationships are your greatest defenses against bullying and other challenges. Mutually supportive friendships are invaluable. The best friends are those who want the best for you, so that just knowing them and being around them will make you want to be your best too.
Teens often want to have a whole posse of friends to run around with. And if you have a big circle of friends you can trust, that’s great, but having even one mutually supportive and trusting relationship is a great blessing.
The best way to attract and build friendships is to be a good friend to others.
Do you remember the last time a bully gave you a hard time? Did the person say something mean, threaten you physically, start a rumor, post an unflattering picture online, or turn other people against you? Try to create a clear picture in your mind of exactly what happened.
Now think about how you felt. What emotions rose up? Did you feel hurt? anger? despair? depression? frustration? all of the above? anything else?
Okay, now think about what you did in response to the bully’s actions or words. Did it make things better or worse? Did that bully stop bothering you? After you responded, did you feel better or worse? What would you have done differently?
Feel free to write down your responses to all my crazy questions on a sheet of paper. Many people find that writing things down helps them work out problems. It’s also a good way to begin monitoring your negative emotions, so that instead ofjust responding emotionally, you can think first and respond more thoughtfully—which is always the best way to go.
In the Bible, Proverbs 16:32 tells us that it is “better to be slow to anger than to be a mighty warrior, and one who controls his temper is better than one who captures a city.”
We have emotions for a reason. They don’t just come over us by chance, even though it sometimes may seem that way. Asking where your emotions come from and assessing why you feel the way you feel are critical parts of creating self-awareness and asserting self-control over your actions.
It’s important to know what triggers your emotions so you can better control your responses in ways that benefit you over the long term. Managing negative emotions is an important part of your bully defense system, and it is also a key to living a more successful life. People who let their negative emotions control their actions tend to feel out of control, insecure, and unhappy. Those who act based on a thoughtful process for monitoring and managing such emotions tend to be more
Looking back to what I have seen on some of the videos by Nick I see and remember just how wonderful God and the Lord Jesus is and that it doesn’t matter who we are or what we look like or what people may think about us, that we are special, we are unique and God loves us just the way we are.
Anna discovered something wonderful when she made the choice not to feel sorry for herself and not to be lonely anymore. She discovered that the first step to making friends is to be a friend to yourself. Accept that you have value, that you are worthy of love and trust. Know that God loves you so that you will never be alone or unloved, and then take that knowledge and self-acceptance and make yourself available. Let other peoplesee the wonderful person God created you to be. It worked for Anna, and it will work for you too!
Nick’s Notes for Chapter Six
Strong and supportive relationships are your greatest defenses against bullying and other challenges. Mutually supportive friendships are invaluable. The best friends are those who want the best for you, so that just knowing them and being around them will make you want to be your best too.
Teens often want to have a whole posse of friends to run around with. And if you have a big circle of friends you can trust, that’s great, but having even one mutually supportive and trusting relationship is a great blessing.
The best way to attract and build friendships is to be a good friend to others.
Do you remember the last time a bully gave you a hard time? Did the person say something mean, threaten you physically, start a rumor, post an unflattering picture online, or turn other people against you? Try to create a clear picture in your mind of exactly what happened.
Now think about how you felt. What emotions rose up? Did you feel hurt? anger? despair? depression? frustration? all of the above? anything else?
Okay, now think about what you did in response to the bully’s actions or words. Did it make things better or worse? Did that bully stop bothering you? After you responded, did you feel better or worse? What would you have done differently?
Feel free to write down your responses to all my crazy questions on a sheet of paper. Many people find that writing things down helps them work out problems. It’s also a good way to begin monitoring your negative emotions, so that instead ofjust responding emotionally, you can think first and respond more thoughtfully—which is always the best way to go.
In the Bible, Proverbs 16:32 tells us that it is “better to be slow to anger than to be a mighty warrior, and one who controls his temper is better than one who captures a city.”
We have emotions for a reason. They don’t just come over us by chance, even though it sometimes may seem that way. Asking where your emotions come from and assessing why you feel the way you feel are critical parts of creating self-awareness and asserting self-control over your actions.
It’s important to know what triggers your emotions so you can better control your responses in ways that benefit you over the long term. Managing negative emotions is an important part of your bully defense system, and it is also a key to living a more successful life. People who let their negative emotions control their actions tend to feel out of control, insecure, and unhappy. Those who act based on a thoughtful process for monitoring and managing such emotions tend to be more
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