after that, but I don’t really think about it much now. Mostly I would think what his life would’ve been like if he hadn’t died, and if he would’ve had a family. I never really thought about what would have happened if I’d tried it because I know what would’ve happened—I would’ve died, like him. So I didn’t try it and I didn’t die. That’s about the extent of it. I’m really glad you never tried that shit. No one needs any more monkeys on his back than life already gives us.
ME: Were there some ways growing up that I was more like a brother than a sister?
MY BROTHER: No, not really. But then again you’re the only sibling I have ever grown up with, and if you’ve always felt like you were male in gender then I suppose I wouldn’t know how it would be to grow up with a sister.
ME: What’s your biggest fear about me being transgender?
MY BROTHER: There are only two issues I have, but I’m not sure I would call them fears. The first is, that you are going to screw up your body with the hormones and will end up with a trade-off of a shorter life than you would have not taking them. The second is, you have or will get to a point where the change is irreversible, and thenat some point you will come to the conclusion that you have made the wrong decision.
ME: Did it help you to talk to [my close friend] T— about it at my wedding?
MY BROTHER: Yes, it did. In a way I felt like she had a deeper understanding of what you are going through. We did talk a bit privately about you, and she helped me understand how important it was for me to refer to you as my brother, and use “he” when I talked to people at the wedding. I did make the rare and occasional “she” mistake, but if T— was near me, she would correct me with a stink-eye or sometimes a swift smack in the shoulder.
ME: Do you feel like who I am essentially is the same, or different since I started going by “he”?
MY BROTHER: [ Left blank ]
ME: Who do you think is more of a disappointment to Mom and Dad: me or you?
MY BROTHER: I don’t think either one of us is a disappointment to them in any way. I will say that I think they might be more disheartened at how my life has turned out than yours has.
ME: Have you ever picked up a transgender suspect in the course ofyour job? 1 Where did you hold her (or him), in male or female sections of jail or the precinct or whatever it’s called?
MY BROTHER: Actually it’s unusual if I don’t arrest at least one transgender a month. I come in contact with them almost on a daily basis. Where they go in the jail system depends on if they have completed the sex change. In our department males get housed with males, and females with females. It doesn’t matter what they were “before,” only what they are now.
Trannies and gays 2 are a little different, in that if they’re all made up with makeup and dresses and stuff, we usually keep them away from straights for their own safety. The only required question we ask them is if they are straight, gay, or bi. We put them with like others, so they don’t get raped or beaten up. If they eventually go to state prison, they aren’t allowed to wear makeup and are housed with other like genders. Again, the transgender in prison are housed depending on if they have complete sex changes. It’s really not a big deal at all from what I have seen. I have arrested a few males that have had really nice big boobies installed, but they still have a penis. These guys usually are housed by themselves, as you can imagine what would happen if they were put in general population. I don’t know for sure how they house them instate prison, but if they have a penis they probably go with other males.
ME: I would imagine you’ve heard some pretty awful shit said about transgender people while on the job. How does it make you feel when people say stuff like that, knowing you’re related to one?
MY BROTHER: “Awful shit” is pretty subjective. The things I hear
ME: Were there some ways growing up that I was more like a brother than a sister?
MY BROTHER: No, not really. But then again you’re the only sibling I have ever grown up with, and if you’ve always felt like you were male in gender then I suppose I wouldn’t know how it would be to grow up with a sister.
ME: What’s your biggest fear about me being transgender?
MY BROTHER: There are only two issues I have, but I’m not sure I would call them fears. The first is, that you are going to screw up your body with the hormones and will end up with a trade-off of a shorter life than you would have not taking them. The second is, you have or will get to a point where the change is irreversible, and thenat some point you will come to the conclusion that you have made the wrong decision.
ME: Did it help you to talk to [my close friend] T— about it at my wedding?
MY BROTHER: Yes, it did. In a way I felt like she had a deeper understanding of what you are going through. We did talk a bit privately about you, and she helped me understand how important it was for me to refer to you as my brother, and use “he” when I talked to people at the wedding. I did make the rare and occasional “she” mistake, but if T— was near me, she would correct me with a stink-eye or sometimes a swift smack in the shoulder.
ME: Do you feel like who I am essentially is the same, or different since I started going by “he”?
MY BROTHER: [ Left blank ]
ME: Who do you think is more of a disappointment to Mom and Dad: me or you?
MY BROTHER: I don’t think either one of us is a disappointment to them in any way. I will say that I think they might be more disheartened at how my life has turned out than yours has.
ME: Have you ever picked up a transgender suspect in the course ofyour job? 1 Where did you hold her (or him), in male or female sections of jail or the precinct or whatever it’s called?
MY BROTHER: Actually it’s unusual if I don’t arrest at least one transgender a month. I come in contact with them almost on a daily basis. Where they go in the jail system depends on if they have completed the sex change. In our department males get housed with males, and females with females. It doesn’t matter what they were “before,” only what they are now.
Trannies and gays 2 are a little different, in that if they’re all made up with makeup and dresses and stuff, we usually keep them away from straights for their own safety. The only required question we ask them is if they are straight, gay, or bi. We put them with like others, so they don’t get raped or beaten up. If they eventually go to state prison, they aren’t allowed to wear makeup and are housed with other like genders. Again, the transgender in prison are housed depending on if they have complete sex changes. It’s really not a big deal at all from what I have seen. I have arrested a few males that have had really nice big boobies installed, but they still have a penis. These guys usually are housed by themselves, as you can imagine what would happen if they were put in general population. I don’t know for sure how they house them instate prison, but if they have a penis they probably go with other males.
ME: I would imagine you’ve heard some pretty awful shit said about transgender people while on the job. How does it make you feel when people say stuff like that, knowing you’re related to one?
MY BROTHER: “Awful shit” is pretty subjective. The things I hear
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