pressure as she invites. This should not cause pain to her shoulders, elbows, wrists, or back. Rather, it should allow her to fall forward—or back toward you—without losing her balance.
You will both need to communicate during this position as neither of you will have a free hand to provide additional stimulation, yet this position can provide you both with an awesome genital orgasm.
Brava! Bravo!
As he leans forward into her, he can caress her breasts, hair, face, hips, shoulders, and neck. Gentle kisses at the top of her spine or behind the ear are lovely. He can massage her back or stroke her thighs and buttocks. She can reach back with her arms to caress him and, with a twist of her body and a tilt of her head, they can kiss. If there’s no more energy for another cycle of love-making, relax back into a classic spoon position. His arms become her pillow and duvet; her back becomes his blanket. She can reach over and behind him, to bring them closer.
Find a speaking level somewhere between a conversational tone and a whisper. Ask what your partner is feeling, continue to explore your bodies, and don’t be afraid to touch yourself. As post-coital, cuddle hormones flow through you, give yourselves over to the urge to hug, to doze, to chat, or to be perfectly still. You can turn toward each other to kiss or talk, or to repeat or initiate something from another chapter.
Let’s face it: When it comes to identifying the single most romantic position, we don’t always see eye-to-eye.
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Building an Erotic Ensemble: Achieving Blended Orgasms
As human sexuality has become more medicalized, we have seen the definition of what constitutes an orgasm limited by some formula that looks something like this: Body Part × Time under Stimulus = Orgasm. I was never good at that kind of math, which is why I support clients in having blended orgasms. Blended orgasms work like a game of “connect the dots” in which our erogenous zones are the dots. Traditionally, blended orgasms for women could be minimally a dual combination of clitoral and vaginal stimuli. But what if a woman can come from having her clitoris tickled and her elbow licked? In my world, that is a blended orgasm—one that involves an individual’s erogenous zones in a whole-body, “connect-the-spots” sexual response.
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POSITION 1
POSITION 2
This Chapter’s Positions and Their Degrees of Difficulty:
XXX XX POSITION 1 : Pretzel Sticks
XX XXX POSITION 2 : Transition
XXX XX POSITION 3 : Twist and Shout
In “Getting Started,” you learned where your particular erogenous zones are (and remember, they will change over time). In the 1st movement , you learned where your partner’s are. This chapter will put you in positions that will help you and your partner view and touch several time-honored erogenous zones that excite many people, in addition to a few areas on and in your body that you might find exciting as well. The key is that you communicate with your partner about which ones turn you on.
Setting the Stage
Because this chapter relies a great deal on touching and stimulating the body, cleanliness is imperative. Consider taking a sensual bath or shower, accompanied by some dirty talk or sexy whispers, which will add to the outercourse. Also, because the feet and hands get involved, a manicure and pedicure—professional or not—would be in order.
To help you create different types of touch—and each body part has its own comfort zone of acceptable touches—conduct a sexual scavenger hunt around your home and see what you can find. Perhaps a piece of silk, satin, or velvet. A feather or, if you are allergic, something just as soft and provocative. A bowl of ice cubes or ice that you have frozen in various shapes (popsicles are off-limits because of the sugar they might introduce into the vagina, resulting in a possible yeast infection). There are also stainless steel toys you
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