Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! by Marie Forleo Page B
Authors: Marie Forleo
Tags: General, Family & Relationships, Psychology, Interpersonal relations, Self-Help, Personal Growth, Love & Romance, Self-Esteem
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you have a set of past grievances you trot out to prove how much you've overcome or how hard you've had it in hopes of creating intimacy or admiration from a man? How irresistible would you be if you left the past alone? How much more authentic and grounded would you feel? Without your story, how much easier will you make it for a man to really, genuinely want you?
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Chapter 9
SECRET 6 Quit Complaining and Start Engaging, or How and Where to Meet More Men than You Can Shake a Stick At
Copyright © 2008 by Marie Forleo. Click here for terms of use .
What you are aware of you are in control of;
what you are not aware of is in control of you.
—
Anthony De Mello, Jesuit preist and author
Have you ever noticed how much time you waste complaining (either aloud or in the privacy of your thoughts) that either you're too busy or you don't know where to meet more men? Here's a big secret: you miss opportunities every single day to meet quality men and you don't even know it.
There's a law in physics that no two things can occupy the same space at the same time. In other words, either you can be complaining about your life and how you have no time to meet men or you can be living your life and meeting men. You cannot do both at the same time.
When you are consumed with the conversation in your mind about what's wrong in life, your irresistibility level takes a noticeable nosedive. It doesn't matter what you complain about: the weather, traffic, your job, a bad hair day, men, women, your parents, the president—any subject matter will do, and all have the same tragic effect.
Here's what happens. When you complain internally, you are lost in thought. When you're lost in thought, you miss what's happening in your environment. Rather than having your attention outward to see who's around and what's going on, you are preoccupied with your internal mental conversation (read: "complaint fest") and miss countless opportunities to meet men.
Energetically speaking, when you are lost in your thoughts, you are a closed system that's emitting "I'm not available" vibes. You reduce the probability of meeting someone because spiritually, you're not open for business.
Why You Should Drop Your Drama
Complaining, whether silently or aloud, is a major man repellant. When you complain, you are arguing with whatis; you're saying life is not how you think it should be. This victimizes you and creates stress and anxiety in your body. And that stress has a negative impact on your appearance: premature aging, a worsening of acne or psoriasis, and, my personal favorite, an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone that causes an increase in abdominal fat.
That being said, men are attracted to more than looks in a woman. They are attracted to the way you make them feel. Women who are complaint-free make men feel good because they themselves feel good.
How to Meet More Men Now
Want to know the easiest way to meet more men? Quit complaining and start engaging. That's right. You can meet more men
everywhere
, starting today. It's your attitude that matters most. Rather than having a private pity party, practice redirecting your attention outward and start connecting with everyone in your environment, just for fun. It doesn't matter if they are men or women, young or old, married or single—simply start relating to people instead of being lost in your thoughts. Mail carriers, bankers, grocers, people behind the counter at Starbucks, fellow gym members, cops, teachers, and people in the crosswalk are all fair game.
Don't worry about what to say. A simple hello and a smile are all you need. Take the attention off yourself (andyour internal complaints), and redirect your irresistible energy out into the world. Make someone's day by smiling for no reason. Be of service. Kindly hold a door, offer a seat, or lend a hand. Silently bless people around you. You'll be shocked at what happens. You'll start meeting people all the time and feel
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Chapter 9
SECRET 6 Quit Complaining and Start Engaging, or How and Where to Meet More Men than You Can Shake a Stick At
Copyright © 2008 by Marie Forleo. Click here for terms of use .
What you are aware of you are in control of;
what you are not aware of is in control of you.
—
Anthony De Mello, Jesuit preist and author
Have you ever noticed how much time you waste complaining (either aloud or in the privacy of your thoughts) that either you're too busy or you don't know where to meet more men? Here's a big secret: you miss opportunities every single day to meet quality men and you don't even know it.
There's a law in physics that no two things can occupy the same space at the same time. In other words, either you can be complaining about your life and how you have no time to meet men or you can be living your life and meeting men. You cannot do both at the same time.
When you are consumed with the conversation in your mind about what's wrong in life, your irresistibility level takes a noticeable nosedive. It doesn't matter what you complain about: the weather, traffic, your job, a bad hair day, men, women, your parents, the president—any subject matter will do, and all have the same tragic effect.
Here's what happens. When you complain internally, you are lost in thought. When you're lost in thought, you miss what's happening in your environment. Rather than having your attention outward to see who's around and what's going on, you are preoccupied with your internal mental conversation (read: "complaint fest") and miss countless opportunities to meet men.
Energetically speaking, when you are lost in your thoughts, you are a closed system that's emitting "I'm not available" vibes. You reduce the probability of meeting someone because spiritually, you're not open for business.
Why You Should Drop Your Drama
Complaining, whether silently or aloud, is a major man repellant. When you complain, you are arguing with whatis; you're saying life is not how you think it should be. This victimizes you and creates stress and anxiety in your body. And that stress has a negative impact on your appearance: premature aging, a worsening of acne or psoriasis, and, my personal favorite, an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone that causes an increase in abdominal fat.
That being said, men are attracted to more than looks in a woman. They are attracted to the way you make them feel. Women who are complaint-free make men feel good because they themselves feel good.
How to Meet More Men Now
Want to know the easiest way to meet more men? Quit complaining and start engaging. That's right. You can meet more men
everywhere
, starting today. It's your attitude that matters most. Rather than having a private pity party, practice redirecting your attention outward and start connecting with everyone in your environment, just for fun. It doesn't matter if they are men or women, young or old, married or single—simply start relating to people instead of being lost in your thoughts. Mail carriers, bankers, grocers, people behind the counter at Starbucks, fellow gym members, cops, teachers, and people in the crosswalk are all fair game.
Don't worry about what to say. A simple hello and a smile are all you need. Take the attention off yourself (andyour internal complaints), and redirect your irresistible energy out into the world. Make someone's day by smiling for no reason. Be of service. Kindly hold a door, offer a seat, or lend a hand. Silently bless people around you. You'll be shocked at what happens. You'll start meeting people all the time and feel
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