Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed by Taylor Ryan, Nick Andrews Page B

you run out of things to say, not an opener.
     
    Negs
    Negative comments are very powerful, if used correctly. They are comments directed at a target that appear nice enough on the surface, but mean spirited in their meaning. For example, tell a girl she reminds you of your baby sister. We have all heard the saying before, “You’re like a brother to me.” We all know how much that line sucks to hear. Turn the tables on her instead. Telling the target she reminds us of our baby sister is essentially telling her that she is immature, we are not attracted to her, and she is a pain in our ass. She does not have any value. I know we said earlier that you can use the sister line as a role play. You can, it all depends on how you come across when you say it. If you come across in a fun, joking matter, you are role playing. If you come across saying she reminds you of a sister, therefore you are not attracted to her, it is a neg.
     
    Negs take girls out of their element. Women are so use to guys kissing their ass all night long that when they don’t hear a flattering comment about them, they are taken aback. It takes them off that pedestal that the other guys have placed them on and snaps them back to reality. Now you hold the power, she will want to prove herself to you, rather than the other way around. You are calling the shots. She will do everything she can to gain the upper hand, but now it is too late, you have already positioned yourself as her equal and you have effectively broken down her barriers. You are no longer another random guy, you are someone of interest.
     
    A favorite neg of ours is to tell the target is, “You are a really attractive girl, you're just not really the type of girl I date.” The reaction you will get is incredible. She will take it as a challenge. Here is a girl who has been receiving compliments all night long by every guy in the bar, and you are the asshole that tells her she's not your type! Instantly you have separated yourself from every other guy. The only way she can redeem herself is for you to find her attractive. By the time she has done so, you have already established sexual chemistry with her, broken down her barrier, and are well on your way to closing.
     
    The bad thing with using negs is that if you use them incorrectly, you are just a prick. In the pick up community, negs are used just as described above. You make a woman insecure about something, and then she does whatever it takes to change your mind. The problem is, for the most part negs only work on really insecure women. So you are basically tearing down an already insecure person and making them feel worse about themselves. Granted, they will react in a way to make you change your mind and this does work, but do you really want to be that guy that gets women into bed by making them feel bad about themselves. You can get them into bed many other ways without tearing them down.
     
    Our Approach
    We have said a few times that the conversation must be fluid. That just means that a conversation can't be scripted. You can't plan what you’re going to say and then anticipate what your target will say. The conversation is fluid. A lot of what you say is determined by what she says. There is no stage of the conversation that you have to stay in for a certain amount of time before you move onto the next. The best way to approach a girl is to do it with the intent of having a genuine interaction. You can't go up to a girl and think in your head, "I'm going to ask her a question then tell her a story, and then I’m going to jump into a role play." That’s just not how it works.
     
    I will approach a woman and introduce myself. From there I play off what she does. If she sits there all quiet like, I might ask a question to get things going. Her answer should allow me to move into a free flowing conversation without having to ask anymore direct questions. If she says something funny to me from the start, I might bust on her