Do Dead People Watch You Shower? by Concetta Bertoldi

across more than a dozen years and two counties, just so the Other Side could show me without a doubt that my husband was faithful to me and that I really could trust Them every time.
    Just for the record, I generally will not tell someone outright if I hear she has a cheating spouse. I always say, that is not my job. I can’t fix everyone. I leave that to the individual to decide for herself.

Does a spirit still have the same personality as the person he or she used to be?
     
    Definitely! They are as constant in their personalities on that side as They were on this side. If someone was pushy here, she will be pushy on the Other Side and will want to be heard. Some men, who were very flirtatious when they were living, have said things to me about my looks or about liking some part of my body. I’m doing a reading and I’m laughing and the person will say, “Why are you laughing?” I’ll tell them, “He said I wasn’t a bad-looking chick,” and they’ll say, “Yeah, you’re his type.” But every now and then someone who was quiet on this side or someone who maybe never would have said “I’m sorry” will communicate strongly or will say, “I never said I loved you and I should have.” So sometimes They do change on the Other Side, but it’s always in that vein, like They have learned something. Sometimes a client will comment how well I’ve “got” someone, like I’m doing impersonations or something. But it’s not me, it’s Them. I’m just telling what I’m hearing.

Do people on the Other Side age?
     
    The thing to bear in mind is that physical age has nothing to do with spiritual age. Someone on this side could live only a short time, but still be a very old soul. Conversely, someone could live to be seventy-five and still be a child in spiritual terms. On that side a baby who has died is not a baby. This spirit may come through to me as “I am the nine-month-old baby my mother lost,” but this is just for the purposes of letting the person know for sure that it is their baby. People always want to know why God would take a child, but to me that’s the wrong question. I always wonder about the souls who would volunteer to come here when they know that maybe they will experience a fatal illness, or genetic disorder, or be abused or murdered. But the ripple effect created by their short lives and deaths reaches so far; they contribute so much. And, of course, where they have gone back to now is so much better.
    But to the broader question, it seems to me that there is no fixed age that someone may be on that side. I believe you can pick your age. I know that my father does not appear to me as an old man and my brother does not appear to me as a sick man. They are both young and beautiful on the Other Side. It’s most likely that spirits get to pick the age they feel most perfect, most themselves at. But I do know that when a client comes for a reading the person he is trying to reach will usually appear in a form that the client knew her so she will be recognized. A grandparent, for instance, won’t show himself as twenty-something because his grandchild never knew him in the flesh like that.

What might make a soul volunteer for a life that he knows will be cut short?
     
    Usually when we incarnate it is to learn something. But I believe in these cases it is to teach something. Without a doubt, a mission like that would not be given to anyone other than a very advanced or Master spirit. I can’t really speak to motivation. I have to assume that a soul who has evolved to that point has a much larger understanding than we have, and the importance would not have to be explained to it.

How can you tell if the message you convey is accurate?
     
    The main way I know that what I’ve told a person is accurate is if that person is able to validate it. It really is up to the client because I don’t know the soul I’m getting the message from so it might not make sense to me: I just repeat what I