identify the
fault of everyone else who was involved. After one relationship
debacle after another, when one financial crisis is followed by an-
other, these folks seize power to feel more in control. The idea of
shared decision making in relationships and money transactions
goes out the window as these people stop listening to the views or
ideas of others. In reaction to constant disappointment, they end
up feeling alone, stranded, and unable to move forward.
If you have lower-back problems and you recognize these neg-
ative thoughts and behaviors, consider what you need and how
you can get it. If what you need is to get healthy, be free of pain,
and feel strong and supported, you can reverse the effects of nega-
tive thoughts by using the affirmation “I trust the process of life.
All I need is always taken care of. I am safe.”
Specific affirmations help us take healing to the next level.
Lower-back and sciatic pain has to do with fear about money,
and hip problems have to do with fear about moving forward.
If you have lower-back or hip problems, it’s important not only
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to understand your thought patterns but also to practice the af-
firmations. So, for example, if you have hip problems that have
to do with fear of making major decisions, use the affirmation “I
am in perfect balance. I move forward in life with ease and joy
at every age.” If you have sciatica that stems from being highly
self-critical and fearful of the future, the affirmation would be
“I move into my greater good. My good is everywhere, and I am
secure and safe.”
As with the health of every body part, the important thing
to focus on here is balance. If you suffer from lower-back or hip
pain, it’s time to look at your relationship both with yourself and
with the people around you. Honestly assess your life and make
some changes. Do you get support from your family that you’re
not getting elsewhere? Notice where you are getting support and
openly acknowledge it and have gratitude for it. Do you tend to
always blame others when things go wrong? Try to see the whole
picture and see whether you are doing something that might be
contributing to the problem. Do you feel out of control when it
comes to finances? Look closely at any financial downfalls and try
to pinpoint where things shifted from good to bad.
Your goal is to adopt a new view of the world. To really figure
out what’s going wrong in your relationships and finances, you
must take a big-picture look at the reality of both. And to do this,
you need to get a grasp of your emotions, be able to identify and
address them.
The most powerful practices you can do to rebalance your life
involve meditation and mindfulness. While those who are prone
to reproductive issues need to use these practices to slow down
and recognize the beauty in the world, if you have lower-back and
hip pain, you need to get a handle on your emotions. Medita-
tion teaches you to observe and describe, but not judge, your emo-
tions while you’re experiencing them. You will come to know that
emotions are not reality, which means that they will not have so
much power over you. Eventually, after practicing mindfulness
and meditation, you will be able to detach from your feelings in a
way that will help you take a more well-rounded view of the world
and the people in your life. You will be able to interact with people
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in more respectful and productive ways that will ultimately lead
to healthier finances and relationships.
Another important step you should take when it comes to
healing lower-back and hip pain is to set up time to spend with
people outside of your family or direct circle of friends. Widen
your network of support. Even if it’s only for a few hours each
week, get out and experience life from a different perspective.
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