like.”
Let’s carry on, but first I need to answer the question about whether yellows are male or female. You can have girl yellows and boy yellows; what matters is the concept of yellowness, something that encompasses both sexes.
Back to the question of what you can or can’t do with a yellow, which I’m sure you want to know. Here’s a four-point list. We’ll add more as we go on.
I should make it clear that they’re not in any order, nor do you have to do all these things with a yellow. The important thing about yellows is having the feeling of having met a fellowsoul, a person who marks you (an evolution in friendship).
After you’ve convinced yourself that someone can be a yellow, you can try these things with them:
1. Speaking
In this, yellows aren’t much different from other kinds of relationships. Perhaps there’s a slight difference if you’re speaking to someone you don’t know and what made you start speaking was the suspicion that this person was a yellow.
With yellows you feel that you can tell them hidden secrets, you can open yourself up. You can call them at any hour of the day or night. You feel that sometimes you don’t need to maintain contact; you can spend months and months without saying anything and when you see them again everything is just as it always has been.
Words are overrated; it’s not their quantity but their intensity that matters. There are yellows who are good for two conversations and yellows who are good for fifty.
2. Hugging and Stroking
This world would work better if there were more hugging and stroking. In the hospital we supported each other, we hugged each other. (The first thing you lose when you get ill is the hugs; people swap them for pats on the back. Sometimeswe thought that we wouldn’t die of cancer but of being patted so much on the back.)
A yellow hug lasts about two minutes. You feel the other person’s breathing. It’s important to feel their breathing.
As far as the stroking is concerned: Where to stroke? Wherever you want. On the hand, on the face, on the arm, on the ear, on the leg. Wherever you think you should stroke. I think it’s one of the great mistakes we make, not to stroke each other more often, to feel the warmth of a hand, the temperature and touch of a hand on you.
I remember in the hospital we used to stroke each other. It was something natural, normal. It was simply and purely affection; there was no other connotation attached to it.
I think that in this particular aspect of things, yellows take on a role that has always been that of the partner. But there’s no point being scared or jealous or even in thinking that you’ll be misunderstood; all you have to do is change the way you think about things. Like I said before, the brain needs the right combination to let new ideas come in. You have to understand something before you judge it.
Stroking and hugging are two things that friendship doesn’t include, although it’s the natural next step for friends. Yellows have taken this step and enjoy its results.
3. Sleeping and Waking
Half of a yellow life is watching someone wake up. You don’t have to be in the same bed, you could be in two beds, but you have to get into an environment where yellows can sleep andwake up with each other after seven or eight hours. How many people have you slept with in your life without having sex with them? Was it on a journey? Ask yourself these questions. I’m sure there won’t be that many. And if you narrow it down to the people you’ve shared a bed with, I’m sure it’ll be even fewer. This is another error that society makes: thinking that sleeping and waking are something functional, when they’re actually something as important as lunch or tea.
Everyone eats with their friends. Want to have lunch? Want to come around for tea? It’s something friends do. That and going on trips together. But, shall we sleep together? Hey, why not wake up together? It’s not normal, but
Let’s carry on, but first I need to answer the question about whether yellows are male or female. You can have girl yellows and boy yellows; what matters is the concept of yellowness, something that encompasses both sexes.
Back to the question of what you can or can’t do with a yellow, which I’m sure you want to know. Here’s a four-point list. We’ll add more as we go on.
I should make it clear that they’re not in any order, nor do you have to do all these things with a yellow. The important thing about yellows is having the feeling of having met a fellowsoul, a person who marks you (an evolution in friendship).
After you’ve convinced yourself that someone can be a yellow, you can try these things with them:
1. Speaking
In this, yellows aren’t much different from other kinds of relationships. Perhaps there’s a slight difference if you’re speaking to someone you don’t know and what made you start speaking was the suspicion that this person was a yellow.
With yellows you feel that you can tell them hidden secrets, you can open yourself up. You can call them at any hour of the day or night. You feel that sometimes you don’t need to maintain contact; you can spend months and months without saying anything and when you see them again everything is just as it always has been.
Words are overrated; it’s not their quantity but their intensity that matters. There are yellows who are good for two conversations and yellows who are good for fifty.
2. Hugging and Stroking
This world would work better if there were more hugging and stroking. In the hospital we supported each other, we hugged each other. (The first thing you lose when you get ill is the hugs; people swap them for pats on the back. Sometimeswe thought that we wouldn’t die of cancer but of being patted so much on the back.)
A yellow hug lasts about two minutes. You feel the other person’s breathing. It’s important to feel their breathing.
As far as the stroking is concerned: Where to stroke? Wherever you want. On the hand, on the face, on the arm, on the ear, on the leg. Wherever you think you should stroke. I think it’s one of the great mistakes we make, not to stroke each other more often, to feel the warmth of a hand, the temperature and touch of a hand on you.
I remember in the hospital we used to stroke each other. It was something natural, normal. It was simply and purely affection; there was no other connotation attached to it.
I think that in this particular aspect of things, yellows take on a role that has always been that of the partner. But there’s no point being scared or jealous or even in thinking that you’ll be misunderstood; all you have to do is change the way you think about things. Like I said before, the brain needs the right combination to let new ideas come in. You have to understand something before you judge it.
Stroking and hugging are two things that friendship doesn’t include, although it’s the natural next step for friends. Yellows have taken this step and enjoy its results.
3. Sleeping and Waking
Half of a yellow life is watching someone wake up. You don’t have to be in the same bed, you could be in two beds, but you have to get into an environment where yellows can sleep andwake up with each other after seven or eight hours. How many people have you slept with in your life without having sex with them? Was it on a journey? Ask yourself these questions. I’m sure there won’t be that many. And if you narrow it down to the people you’ve shared a bed with, I’m sure it’ll be even fewer. This is another error that society makes: thinking that sleeping and waking are something functional, when they’re actually something as important as lunch or tea.
Everyone eats with their friends. Want to have lunch? Want to come around for tea? It’s something friends do. That and going on trips together. But, shall we sleep together? Hey, why not wake up together? It’s not normal, but
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