The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino Page B

buy a dildo. You need something with a flared base for anal penetration; it’s an absolute necessity, so the object doesn’t get sucked into your ass or lost somewhere in your rectum. Sex toys were manufactured with sex in mind, they are designed for penetration, and therefore much more ideal for it than a makeshift dong. There are relatively inexpensive dildos on the market, especially the rubber or jelly variety (silicone dicks are much more expensive). Buy yourself a fifteen- or twenty-dollar dildo, and I promise it will be well worth the investment.
    Butt plugs may be smooth or textured with ridges, ripples, rings, or bumps. The textures provide extra stimulation to the nerve endings in the area, especially as the toy goes in or comes out. Some butt plugs vibrate, others don’t; beginners may find a vibrating butt plug a good choice since the vibration not only feels good but also helps relax the sphincter muscles. Plugs may be made of flexible materials like rubber and silicone or solid ones like clear acrylic, glass, or metal. They come in a whole bunch of sizes, and remember that it is always best to start small and work your way up. From the shape of a slim tapered finger to the size of a wide traffic cone, the diverse butt plugs in the world represent our collective imagination, fantasies, goals, and desires.
    If you like the feeling of something just being in your ass, and appreciate the fullness and pressure without necessarily any moving in and out, then you would probably love a butt plug. Butt plugs are meant to go in and stay in. No need for lots of in-and-out play, just the sensation of the sphincters closed around the base of a butt plug, and you’re in heaven. Once you slowly slide a well-lubed plug inside the ass, you can then move on to something else—clitoral stimulation, a blow job, vaginal penetration, whatever you’d like—and the butt plug will continue to stimulate without a lot of work on your part. If your partner loves having her nipples sucked while her ass is fucked, or if you want to concentrate on sucking his penis and he wants something up his butt, you could feel like you’re playing Twister. A butt plug is a great solution!
    Butt plugs are also a great way to warm up the ass for bigger things to come. Putting in a plug and leaving it in for a while lets the ass get used to having something inside it. Using a series of different sizes of plugs can help you work up to having something larger in your ass, like a dildo or penis. Butt plugs work while you play: the ass gets further aroused, relaxes, and opens up, all thanks to the plug. When you slip it out, the ass says, “Bring it on!” (i.e., it’s ready for something bigger).

    I have a clear acrylic butt plug (designed by Ray Cirino at Innerspace) that acts as a magnifying glass once it gets inside. It’s a definite crowdpleaser at workshops. Have you ever looked all the way inside someone’s ass? I have and whoever I peer into, his or her ass is always clean, pink, happy, and healthy—truly a wonder to behold. Sex activist Annie Sprinkle once closed her one-woman show by slipping a speculum inside her pussy and showing audiences her cervix. It was a bold, educational, revolutionary display of female sexual power, and I pay homage to her each time I reveal someone’s ass with my see-through plug. Armed with a flashlight (so geeky, I know), I shine some brightness on a part of the body we often don’t see so intimately. It gives new meaning to being able to see what you are doing.
    Some people like to wear a butt plug for a more extended period of time or even outside the comfort of their bedroom or home. For more information on wearing a butt plug long term, see chapter 14.
    If you have a butt plug in, you may find that when you get really aroused or during orgasm, the plug inadvertently slips (or even shoots!) right out of your ass. While this may be surprising or embarrassing, don’t be alarmed, it’s pretty common.