rest of your life with, why aren’t you exploring that person? It’s all about getting to know someone. It’s all about finding that one person who will balance you, help you grow as an individual, and share the same values. Permanent relationships are built on good foundations, just like a home.”
She paused, and Reed watched as Ty glanced over at him and grinned. He shook his head and rolled his eyes. Reed couldn’t help but laugh. Everything Lacey said made sense, but he’d be damned if he’d use any of her techniques. He wasn’t interested in a forever after. Not any longer.
“So let’s make sure everyone understands what dating is.” She took a sip of water. “Dating is him-or-her, picking you up and taking you to do something that you both enjoy. Or it can be simply sitting at dinner and getting to know one another. But how can you find out what the other person likes if you just do them?” She walked across the stage.
“Before you walk down that aisle, why not date this person and use this time to explore whether you have the same tastes, the same values, the same desires? You don’t have to like everything identical. In fact, it’s good if the other person helps you to experience new things, but you at least need to have the same values.”
Lacey faced the audience, her features were animated, her hands gestured, and her voice preached. “Throw sex into the first or second date and you don’t know who you’re sleeping with. I’m not saying sex is bad. I’m saying if you want a permanent relationship that lasts your entire life, you need to do your research.”
The audience laughed.
“I’m serious. Put on your Sherlock Holmes hat and investigate that person and if you think this is someone you could spend the rest of your life with, if you think this person is someone you want to know more intimately, go out and have the best damn sex of your life with them. Burn the sheets up. But realize sex always changes the relationship. It makes it intimate. And that’s not a bad thing when the relationship is ready.”
Surely, these people weren’t buying into this crap. Surely, they weren’t going to change the way they looked at dating. Were they? He gazed out at the audience and noticed people were paying attention. They were listening to Lacey.
She stared out at her audience. “Okay, we’ve had enough seriousness for a while; let’s take a ten minute break.”
Ty laid down his camera. “We’re getting some great stuff.”
“Yeah, let’s see if we can get someone to talk on camera.”
Reed walked up to a man in his mid-thirties who sat staring reflectively off into space. “Excuse me, sir. Could I ask you some questions on camera?”
“Sure.”
“What do you think of today’s seminar? Has it been everything you’ve expected?”
The man smiled. “It’s been more. She’s made me think of relationships in a new way. I need to do better at getting to know a woman and what makes her happy.”
Reed stopped, stunned. That wasn’t the answer he’d expected. The man must be lying. He’d try a different tact. “Do you think this will change the way you date?”
“Most definitely. I’ve already signed up for her matchmaking service, and I can’t wait to go out on my first date.”
“What do you think of Ms. Morgan? Do you think she’s presented this seminar in a professional manner? You do realize that relationship coaches are not doctors and don’t even have a Master’s degree.”
That question would get him the footage he needed. The shocked expression, where the man would admit he didn’t know and probably even walk out.
“What does a degree matter if she’s teaching you something that will help you for the rest of your life? I’m not looking for therapy. My relationships kept ending, and now I realize that was a symptom of me not really knowing these women. I hope to do better in the future.”
Well, crap. Time to find a new source. “Thank you for your
She paused, and Reed watched as Ty glanced over at him and grinned. He shook his head and rolled his eyes. Reed couldn’t help but laugh. Everything Lacey said made sense, but he’d be damned if he’d use any of her techniques. He wasn’t interested in a forever after. Not any longer.
“So let’s make sure everyone understands what dating is.” She took a sip of water. “Dating is him-or-her, picking you up and taking you to do something that you both enjoy. Or it can be simply sitting at dinner and getting to know one another. But how can you find out what the other person likes if you just do them?” She walked across the stage.
“Before you walk down that aisle, why not date this person and use this time to explore whether you have the same tastes, the same values, the same desires? You don’t have to like everything identical. In fact, it’s good if the other person helps you to experience new things, but you at least need to have the same values.”
Lacey faced the audience, her features were animated, her hands gestured, and her voice preached. “Throw sex into the first or second date and you don’t know who you’re sleeping with. I’m not saying sex is bad. I’m saying if you want a permanent relationship that lasts your entire life, you need to do your research.”
The audience laughed.
“I’m serious. Put on your Sherlock Holmes hat and investigate that person and if you think this is someone you could spend the rest of your life with, if you think this person is someone you want to know more intimately, go out and have the best damn sex of your life with them. Burn the sheets up. But realize sex always changes the relationship. It makes it intimate. And that’s not a bad thing when the relationship is ready.”
Surely, these people weren’t buying into this crap. Surely, they weren’t going to change the way they looked at dating. Were they? He gazed out at the audience and noticed people were paying attention. They were listening to Lacey.
She stared out at her audience. “Okay, we’ve had enough seriousness for a while; let’s take a ten minute break.”
Ty laid down his camera. “We’re getting some great stuff.”
“Yeah, let’s see if we can get someone to talk on camera.”
Reed walked up to a man in his mid-thirties who sat staring reflectively off into space. “Excuse me, sir. Could I ask you some questions on camera?”
“Sure.”
“What do you think of today’s seminar? Has it been everything you’ve expected?”
The man smiled. “It’s been more. She’s made me think of relationships in a new way. I need to do better at getting to know a woman and what makes her happy.”
Reed stopped, stunned. That wasn’t the answer he’d expected. The man must be lying. He’d try a different tact. “Do you think this will change the way you date?”
“Most definitely. I’ve already signed up for her matchmaking service, and I can’t wait to go out on my first date.”
“What do you think of Ms. Morgan? Do you think she’s presented this seminar in a professional manner? You do realize that relationship coaches are not doctors and don’t even have a Master’s degree.”
That question would get him the footage he needed. The shocked expression, where the man would admit he didn’t know and probably even walk out.
“What does a degree matter if she’s teaching you something that will help you for the rest of your life? I’m not looking for therapy. My relationships kept ending, and now I realize that was a symptom of me not really knowing these women. I hope to do better in the future.”
Well, crap. Time to find a new source. “Thank you for your
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