enormous one that you cannot let it slide. A husband needs respect from his wife, and if she can’t or won’t show it, he may try to find it elsewhere.
Pray that there is a free exchange of love and respect in your marriage, because neither of you will do well without that affirmation. Ask God to show you ways your husband needs to be built up with assurance of your respect for him, both for who he is and what he does. Your respect makes him feel valued, and that is a great investment in the longevity and health of your marriage.
My Prayer to God
L ORD , I pray You will help me to show respect toward my husband in the way You want me to. Where my respect for him has been lowered, I pray You would restore it. Where there have been things he has done, or not done, that have eroded my respect, I confess my judgmental attitude and lack of mercy. Where I have perceived in him a clear lack of respect for me, and this has diminished him in my eyes, I confess that to You as sin. For I know that reciprocity is not Your way, and getting even is never acceptable in Your eyes.
Help me to see my husband the way You do—as one of Your children. Reveal to me any time I have not esteemed him the way I should and this has contributed to a growing wall between us. Where I have closed off my heart to him in order to avoid being hurt, I confess that to You as well. Forgive me and teach me ways to show respect for him in a manner that will clearly communicate it. Enable me to dwell on the good in him and what he has done, and pray to You about the things that have troubled me.
In Jesus’ name I pray.
44
When He Has Lost Vision for Tomorrow
Where there is no vision, the people perish:
but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
P ROVERBS 29:18 KJV
W HEN YOUR HUSBAND loses his vision for a bright tomorrow, it means he has lost sight of his purpose and his reason to get up in the morning. He has misplaced his sense of God’s calling on his life and his reason to keep fighting the good fight. (Or perhaps he never had a sense of his purpose and calling in the first place.) He may also have lost his reason to keep working and trying. He can even lose his drive to face the day. Having a husband who has lost sight of his future—or your future together—is not a good thing. The Bible says people can’t survive without a vision. That’s why the enemy of our soul comes to steal away the vision we have from God, so that he can kill our hope and destroy our sense of purpose. But your prayers for your husband to have a clear vision for his future and your future together can restore all that and make an enormous difference in his life.
Lack of vision happens gradually. It creeps in a day at a time, a thought at a time, a disappointment at a time. And it can happen to anyone. We get too busy. We get discouraged or exhausted. We work too hard for too long. We try to do right, but things keep going wrong. This could be happening to your husband right now without either of you even realizing it. If you’re not certain how your husband feels about the future, ask him and then pray accordingly. If you can tell he has lost his vision, your prayer can help him find it and be able to hear from God again.
My Prayer to God
L ORD , I pray You would give my husband a clear and strong vision for the future—not only his future, but also our future together as a couple. If the many challenges he has faced, or the disappointments he has experienced, have accumulated enough to take away his sense of hopeful anticipation, I pray You would help him to see that his future is in You and not in outside circumstances. Give him the understanding he needs to know that the value of his life and purpose are not determined by external situations. Enable him to see that success is not in how well things are going at the moment, but it’s in how close he walks with You in prayer and in Your Word. Help him to understand that true vision for his life and our lives together
Pray that there is a free exchange of love and respect in your marriage, because neither of you will do well without that affirmation. Ask God to show you ways your husband needs to be built up with assurance of your respect for him, both for who he is and what he does. Your respect makes him feel valued, and that is a great investment in the longevity and health of your marriage.
My Prayer to God
L ORD , I pray You will help me to show respect toward my husband in the way You want me to. Where my respect for him has been lowered, I pray You would restore it. Where there have been things he has done, or not done, that have eroded my respect, I confess my judgmental attitude and lack of mercy. Where I have perceived in him a clear lack of respect for me, and this has diminished him in my eyes, I confess that to You as sin. For I know that reciprocity is not Your way, and getting even is never acceptable in Your eyes.
Help me to see my husband the way You do—as one of Your children. Reveal to me any time I have not esteemed him the way I should and this has contributed to a growing wall between us. Where I have closed off my heart to him in order to avoid being hurt, I confess that to You as well. Forgive me and teach me ways to show respect for him in a manner that will clearly communicate it. Enable me to dwell on the good in him and what he has done, and pray to You about the things that have troubled me.
In Jesus’ name I pray.
44
When He Has Lost Vision for Tomorrow
Where there is no vision, the people perish:
but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
P ROVERBS 29:18 KJV
W HEN YOUR HUSBAND loses his vision for a bright tomorrow, it means he has lost sight of his purpose and his reason to get up in the morning. He has misplaced his sense of God’s calling on his life and his reason to keep fighting the good fight. (Or perhaps he never had a sense of his purpose and calling in the first place.) He may also have lost his reason to keep working and trying. He can even lose his drive to face the day. Having a husband who has lost sight of his future—or your future together—is not a good thing. The Bible says people can’t survive without a vision. That’s why the enemy of our soul comes to steal away the vision we have from God, so that he can kill our hope and destroy our sense of purpose. But your prayers for your husband to have a clear vision for his future and your future together can restore all that and make an enormous difference in his life.
Lack of vision happens gradually. It creeps in a day at a time, a thought at a time, a disappointment at a time. And it can happen to anyone. We get too busy. We get discouraged or exhausted. We work too hard for too long. We try to do right, but things keep going wrong. This could be happening to your husband right now without either of you even realizing it. If you’re not certain how your husband feels about the future, ask him and then pray accordingly. If you can tell he has lost his vision, your prayer can help him find it and be able to hear from God again.
My Prayer to God
L ORD , I pray You would give my husband a clear and strong vision for the future—not only his future, but also our future together as a couple. If the many challenges he has faced, or the disappointments he has experienced, have accumulated enough to take away his sense of hopeful anticipation, I pray You would help him to see that his future is in You and not in outside circumstances. Give him the understanding he needs to know that the value of his life and purpose are not determined by external situations. Enable him to see that success is not in how well things are going at the moment, but it’s in how close he walks with You in prayer and in Your Word. Help him to understand that true vision for his life and our lives together
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