The 21 Biggest Sex Lies by Shane Dustin Page A

his partner using a toy.
    But somewhere along the line a handful of egotistical men ruined all the fun for the rest of us guys by associating a woman’s use of a toy with his inability to please her.
    The toys were an affront to his manhood, and suggested he was incapable of pleasing his woman.
    Guess what, dude, you can’t. Get over it and let her have some fun.
    But ladies, please pay attention here…



Big Lie 5 : I Never Watch Porn
    Breaking news: Men think differently than women.
    But you knew that already. What you may not know is that when it comes to sexual stimulation, men are visual, and think seeing is believing.
    We like looking at attractive women. We but magazines with glossy photos of beautiful women, and yes, sometimes we watch porn.
    I agree that the exploitative variety of porn demeans women and you have the right to get mad if you catch your guy watching it.
    But when your guy tells you he does not want to watch porn, he is probably lying to you. We are voyeurs, and in the end, we want to see what other people are up to.
    Which reminds me of another lie…



Big Lie 6 : I Have Never Had a One Night Stand
    By definition, a one night stand is a spontaneous roll in the hay with somebody you have just met, and have no intention of ever seeing again.
    Of course, he always calls or drops by at the worse possible moment a day or two later, but for the most part, this is sex for the sake of sex.
    Women are compelled to lie about this because you have been sold a bill of goods that says women must be chaste.
    It’s sad, but a woman who enjoys sex is often called loose, easy, or worse. Whereas a guy who enjoys sex is a playboy or a Prince Charming.
    It’s this double standard that perpetuates this lie.
    That said, I think this is a good lie. Men may claim to want to hear the truth, but in my experience, telling your man you slept with a guy you just met in a bar does not do your relationship any favors.
    Which is one reason I love this next lie…



Big Lie 7: I’ve Never Done This Before
    Maybe you haven’t. After all, there is a first time for everything.
    But there are only so many different ways to experience sex before you start running out of options.
    Both men and women tell this lie to protect the feelings of the person they are with. Which in my opinion makes it a good lie.
    We all want to feel like Robert Frost, exploring that “road less travelled by,” and there is nothing like the truth to destroy our illusion of being the first.
    If push comes to shove, you can always tell your partner…



Big Lie 8 : You Are the Best
    We all want to feel important, and when it comes to sex, we are all inwardly insecure about our abilities to please the person we care about.
    Which is why this lie is so important to a healthy relationship.
    Imagine you are in bed with your lover and he decides it is time to experiment. You’re reluctant because your last experience in this neighborhood of non-missionary sex left you feeling unfulfilled .
    Your first duty is to deny having ever tried it, followed by a few choice words when you are finished, such as, “Wow. That was interesting. You’re the best.”
    Your lie is safe with me. Err, wait a minute…



Big Lie 9: Trust Me
    Men use this comment so often it almost qualifies as a cliché. And believing this comment can lead a young lady to an experience she may or may not cherish.
    Take it from a man who has use d this lie to his advantage: When a guy says “trust me,” what he is really saying is, “I want to do this and it is up to you to say no.”
    And unless you are with a total jerk, you should have the power. “No” means no. You set the limits.
    Some women are so desperate to please their man they will not set limits. But let me tell you, limits are a turn on to a guy. We will see your reluctance as a challenge and pester you until you give in.
    But again, it’s up to you, and if he refuses to cooperate, it may be time to find somebody who