Ride 'Em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison

beyond the outer lips. The clitoris can be big and round or small and hidden. And the overall color can be anything from light pink to dark red. Whatever the genetic make-up, each is unique, and each is beautiful.
    During arousal, everything springs to life. Labia bloom like petals of a flower. The clitoris may grow slightly, often emerging out of hiding to seek delicious stimulation. The vagina lengthens, as well as stretches or tightens to hug an incoming penis, becoming slippery-wet with natural lubricant. Even the colors grow more intense as the entire region floods with warm, rich blood.
    What about your vagina? If you’ve haven’t lifted a hand mirror to look at yours, your self-visualization may be based solely on airbrushed images from adult magazines, or simply on what you imagine it looks like. If you’re curious and comfortable, why not admire your own beauty, even watching yourself as you grow more and more excited. Learning this about yourself, and sharing these discoveries with your loving partner, can inspire genuine passion and new intensity in your lovemaking.
    Fitting Positions For Every Vaginal Style
    Extra tight. Vaginal tightness can be genetic, or caused by being nervous, self-conscious, disconnected, or just not being ready. Often, it’s due to dryness. Try drizzling a good sex lube all over his penis as well as your vagina, and enjoy plenty of foreplay and clitoral stimulation. When you feel ready, gradually insert one lubed finger, then two, and feel if your vagina is stretching comfortably. If so, touch his lubed penis to your vaginal opening and begin slow penetration. If there’s continued difficulty or pain, or penetration is not possible, give it a rest and talk to your physician. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about—enjoying a healthy sex life is worth it.
    Rave Positions. Once you’re well-lubed and comfortable, and proceeding slowly, any and all!
    Not tight enough. Excess lubrication can actually create a looser fit. Try wiping away your natural lube with a soft washcloth or disposable wipe before (and during) lovemaking. You can also insert a finger or two, or even a small dildo, alongside his penis during intercourse. Tightening your pelvic muscles with Kegel exercises will help, too.
    Rave Positions. Spooning: As you press your thighs together, you’ll create extra tightness. Modified Doggystyle: Lay flat on your stomach with your legs straight out and positioned between his legs for a snug, thigh-hugging fit.
    Shallow. If you have a shorter vaginal canal, the head of his penis may bump your cervix with every thrust. While this can be highly stimulating for some women, it can cause discomfort, or even cervical injury for others. Stop immediately if you feel discomfort or pain. Make sure you’re fully aroused before penetration, to give your vaginal canal time to expand and extend to its full length. If you still feel discomfort, treat him to a penis buffer.
    Rave Positions. Cowgirl: You’re in control of the thrusting, so you can limit the depth to your own comfort. Spooning: Your butt can act as a soft, natural buffer to prevent deep penetration without inhibiting pleasure. Standing: The vertical angle can also limit his penetration depth.
    Too wet. The good news: You save money on sex lube! But too much self-lubrication can also create a feeling of looseness, which can lead to a loss of sensation. Try wiping yourselves with a soft washcloth before (and during) intercourse. You may also choose to bypass extended foreplay and enjoy the excitement of jump-right-into-it sex—before an abundance natural juices begin to flow.
    Rave Positions. Any and all, with a soft washcloth or disposable wipe within easy reach.
    Not wet enough. Dryness doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not aroused. Self-lubrication can also be hampered by estrogen levels, stress, time of the month, menopause, prescription drugs, cold remedies, certain birth control pills, alcohol, marijuana—even extended