worry.
That’s when I said to myself, If she isn’t hurt, she’s in a boatload of trouble! That girl has some answering to do . And yeah, I was angry.
Michael popped in at the other high school where her friends were playing basketball. We figured that maybe she went there and didn’t bother to call. Sure enough, she was there with her cell phone and its ringer turned off.
When she got in the door, I started to lecture her on the importance of communication. My first question was, “Why didn’t you call?”
She replied, “I did call, but you didn’t answer, so I left a message.”
I had been out of the house for about ten minutes at that time picking up the boys from their school when I missed the call on the home phone. Instead of trying to catch me on my cell or trying the home phone again, she gave up. I hadn’t even thought about checking the messages since I had my cell phone on me the entire time.
And so I was angry, but yeah, she had a valid excuse. Although her intentions were good, our communication was lost. Again and again I stressed the importance to her of communication and how both of us have to be on the same page. It’s been a few months now since she’s started high school and been using a cell phone, so we’ve had a few months to even out the bumps.
Looking at her, I’m reminded of communication between young couples and what a learning curve it can be. As good as intentions might be, they often get overshadowed by perceptions or misunderstandings. We need to keep listening and watching so that we can learn the language of our spouses.
If the hand doesn’t say to the brain, “This is hot,” the brain will go about other business while the hand is destroyed by the heat. In order for two to function as one, they need to be in communication with each other.
The fact is, we will get angry, but the key to a good relationship is being able to relay that frustration in love. A good rule of thumb? Love your husband enough to trust his intentions. Rather than get upset at something he’s done, give him thebenefit of the doubt and ask yourself if it’s a malicious act on his part or if it’s a matter of miscommunication. Getting along has everything to do with putting aside your desire to have things your way so that you might strengthen the bond of unity.
What happens when we don’t communicate? When we don’t tell our husbands what we expect, what we need, and how much we hurt? Like any wound that is left untreated, it risks getting infected.
Take my pug Bailey for instance. My puppies are like all little pugs. They have a billion folds in their faces and ears. Pugs are known for their wrinkles, but they’re also known to get infections because of the dirt that collects within them. As cute and cuddly as they are, I have to ensure that I clean their faces and ears well.
Since Bailey (my older pug) is a 24/7 lapdog, this really isn’t difficult to maintain. While she’s lying on my lap, I’ll flip her ears over and check them several times a day. I do it without even thinking about it anymore, and I don’t think she notices either.
A few months ago I noticed a little problem—she was scratching feverishly at her left ear. Before even flipping it open I could smell the infection. How did I miss that? Looking back on it later, I realized that she always lies on her left side when she cuddles up on the couch. Therefore I’m always cleaning her right ear, ignoring the left. The poor little thing!
We picked up some medicine for her, and within a few days she was back to her old self. I wasn’t impressed with myself foroverlooking such an important part of her health, but I did learn a little something about infections: (1) left untreated, they spread fast, and (2) prevention is better than medicine.
Apply that wisdom to your marriage, and you will see why communication is important. If you leave infections untreated, they can quickly spread and get out of control. But by keeping
That’s when I said to myself, If she isn’t hurt, she’s in a boatload of trouble! That girl has some answering to do . And yeah, I was angry.
Michael popped in at the other high school where her friends were playing basketball. We figured that maybe she went there and didn’t bother to call. Sure enough, she was there with her cell phone and its ringer turned off.
When she got in the door, I started to lecture her on the importance of communication. My first question was, “Why didn’t you call?”
She replied, “I did call, but you didn’t answer, so I left a message.”
I had been out of the house for about ten minutes at that time picking up the boys from their school when I missed the call on the home phone. Instead of trying to catch me on my cell or trying the home phone again, she gave up. I hadn’t even thought about checking the messages since I had my cell phone on me the entire time.
And so I was angry, but yeah, she had a valid excuse. Although her intentions were good, our communication was lost. Again and again I stressed the importance to her of communication and how both of us have to be on the same page. It’s been a few months now since she’s started high school and been using a cell phone, so we’ve had a few months to even out the bumps.
Looking at her, I’m reminded of communication between young couples and what a learning curve it can be. As good as intentions might be, they often get overshadowed by perceptions or misunderstandings. We need to keep listening and watching so that we can learn the language of our spouses.
If the hand doesn’t say to the brain, “This is hot,” the brain will go about other business while the hand is destroyed by the heat. In order for two to function as one, they need to be in communication with each other.
The fact is, we will get angry, but the key to a good relationship is being able to relay that frustration in love. A good rule of thumb? Love your husband enough to trust his intentions. Rather than get upset at something he’s done, give him thebenefit of the doubt and ask yourself if it’s a malicious act on his part or if it’s a matter of miscommunication. Getting along has everything to do with putting aside your desire to have things your way so that you might strengthen the bond of unity.
What happens when we don’t communicate? When we don’t tell our husbands what we expect, what we need, and how much we hurt? Like any wound that is left untreated, it risks getting infected.
Take my pug Bailey for instance. My puppies are like all little pugs. They have a billion folds in their faces and ears. Pugs are known for their wrinkles, but they’re also known to get infections because of the dirt that collects within them. As cute and cuddly as they are, I have to ensure that I clean their faces and ears well.
Since Bailey (my older pug) is a 24/7 lapdog, this really isn’t difficult to maintain. While she’s lying on my lap, I’ll flip her ears over and check them several times a day. I do it without even thinking about it anymore, and I don’t think she notices either.
A few months ago I noticed a little problem—she was scratching feverishly at her left ear. Before even flipping it open I could smell the infection. How did I miss that? Looking back on it later, I realized that she always lies on her left side when she cuddles up on the couch. Therefore I’m always cleaning her right ear, ignoring the left. The poor little thing!
We picked up some medicine for her, and within a few days she was back to her old self. I wasn’t impressed with myself foroverlooking such an important part of her health, but I did learn a little something about infections: (1) left untreated, they spread fast, and (2) prevention is better than medicine.
Apply that wisdom to your marriage, and you will see why communication is important. If you leave infections untreated, they can quickly spread and get out of control. But by keeping
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