If Someone Says "You Complete Me," RUN! by Whoopi Goldberg Page B
Authors: Whoopi Goldberg
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your brothers and sisters, if you have them.
If you’re an only child, I’m hoping you have some friends.
Go hang out.
That’s what you got to do. Then, if someone says, “Let’s do this again,” I believe that constitutes a date. You take me out more than once, I think it’s a date, but you might not.
If you’re looking for somebody to marry, that’s a whole other thing, because you’ve got to get into the groove of people who are of your age group who are looking for that. Because, really, are you ready at sixty to have more kids? I don’t think so. Are you ready at seventy, eighty? For guys, yes, that makes sense. For women, not so much, because we got one quarter of an egg holding on. Why even bring somebody into the world if you’re sixty? Some people havedone it. I think it’s kind of crazy, but I’m not in their shoes.
So let’s get back to this. Write down what you want. Talk to the people around you and don’t listen to your kids when they tell you, “Don’t do this.” Do not listen to them. The fact of the matter is you’re old enough to know whether you want to hang out or just have a hit-and-run every now and then. Your call.
CHAPTER TEN
Let’s Talk About Sex
T here has always been a difference between having sex just for the sake of sex versus having sex in a relationship. We all know that.
And then, of course, there is lust.
Most people don’t pay attention to chemistry and the way it affects us. They are looking for something else. They are looking for somebody else. Often the people you have chemistry with are people you are trying to get away from because they don’t fit your idea of what a relationship is supposed to be or your idea of the right person for you. When you find that chemistry, your body knows it. Your system kicks into gear, the blood starts to flow. You start to get flushed. Suddenly your tits are sitting up a little higher. That’s chemistry. That’s all the thingschemistry does. It says we are connected somehow, and it isn’t a rational thing.
We might be connected only for the evening. You wake up the next day and there’s no chemistry left. Get out. Good-bye.
I myself am a hit-and-run artist. Hit-and-runs are great because you’re not committed, but you get yourself taken care of. Guys have been doing it for years, going to brothels and all that. Most women don’t think that way and can’t even accept that.
What’s funny to me about all this is that if you had sex with a guy back in the day when I was growing up, you were instantly thought of as being a ho. Instantly. God help you if you got pregnant. Forty years later, we are still in the same place.
Women have the same needs as men. They just do. So why do we pretend they don’t?
You can go out and have fun with somebody, spend time with him, and you can have fun with that same person for the next five or six months, all without writing your names in a little heart on your notebook or saying, “I’m going to be Mrs. So and So.”
You’re allowed to have fun and enjoy people for the time that is appropriate or that works for both of you, without having every relationship become a potential marriage proposal. Yet most of the books out there are still telling women that they shouldn’t be having sex untildate number three, and that if they want the man to be interested in them, they need to play hard to get. Why is this? Why are we constantly telling women that they have to “snag” a man and hold out on him with the whole goal being a marriage proposal?
This all just ignores chemistry.
Also, people should not be looking outside their own ideas of whom they should be looking for and whom they should be attracted to. Everybody thinks they should want someone who will be visually pleasing to other people. Women find themselves thinking, “Oh, I can’t go off with him, because he isn’t what other people want for me.” So they miss a lot of stuff. But what’s wrong with a little sense
If you’re an only child, I’m hoping you have some friends.
Go hang out.
That’s what you got to do. Then, if someone says, “Let’s do this again,” I believe that constitutes a date. You take me out more than once, I think it’s a date, but you might not.
If you’re looking for somebody to marry, that’s a whole other thing, because you’ve got to get into the groove of people who are of your age group who are looking for that. Because, really, are you ready at sixty to have more kids? I don’t think so. Are you ready at seventy, eighty? For guys, yes, that makes sense. For women, not so much, because we got one quarter of an egg holding on. Why even bring somebody into the world if you’re sixty? Some people havedone it. I think it’s kind of crazy, but I’m not in their shoes.
So let’s get back to this. Write down what you want. Talk to the people around you and don’t listen to your kids when they tell you, “Don’t do this.” Do not listen to them. The fact of the matter is you’re old enough to know whether you want to hang out or just have a hit-and-run every now and then. Your call.
CHAPTER TEN
Let’s Talk About Sex
T here has always been a difference between having sex just for the sake of sex versus having sex in a relationship. We all know that.
And then, of course, there is lust.
Most people don’t pay attention to chemistry and the way it affects us. They are looking for something else. They are looking for somebody else. Often the people you have chemistry with are people you are trying to get away from because they don’t fit your idea of what a relationship is supposed to be or your idea of the right person for you. When you find that chemistry, your body knows it. Your system kicks into gear, the blood starts to flow. You start to get flushed. Suddenly your tits are sitting up a little higher. That’s chemistry. That’s all the thingschemistry does. It says we are connected somehow, and it isn’t a rational thing.
We might be connected only for the evening. You wake up the next day and there’s no chemistry left. Get out. Good-bye.
I myself am a hit-and-run artist. Hit-and-runs are great because you’re not committed, but you get yourself taken care of. Guys have been doing it for years, going to brothels and all that. Most women don’t think that way and can’t even accept that.
What’s funny to me about all this is that if you had sex with a guy back in the day when I was growing up, you were instantly thought of as being a ho. Instantly. God help you if you got pregnant. Forty years later, we are still in the same place.
Women have the same needs as men. They just do. So why do we pretend they don’t?
You can go out and have fun with somebody, spend time with him, and you can have fun with that same person for the next five or six months, all without writing your names in a little heart on your notebook or saying, “I’m going to be Mrs. So and So.”
You’re allowed to have fun and enjoy people for the time that is appropriate or that works for both of you, without having every relationship become a potential marriage proposal. Yet most of the books out there are still telling women that they shouldn’t be having sex untildate number three, and that if they want the man to be interested in them, they need to play hard to get. Why is this? Why are we constantly telling women that they have to “snag” a man and hold out on him with the whole goal being a marriage proposal?
This all just ignores chemistry.
Also, people should not be looking outside their own ideas of whom they should be looking for and whom they should be attracted to. Everybody thinks they should want someone who will be visually pleasing to other people. Women find themselves thinking, “Oh, I can’t go off with him, because he isn’t what other people want for me.” So they miss a lot of stuff. But what’s wrong with a little sense
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