taste—he has a deep knowledge of fashion, and so I always appreciate it when he likes what I’m wearing. This dress was a home run for me, and another example of when the dress, jewelry, hair, and makeup all worked together.
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5. I loved the dress that I wore to the SAG Awards in 2012: It was Versace and it had a huge slit that featured the legs, which is rare to find. We did very simple hair and makeup and really focused on the gown, which made me feel so sexy.
THE DRESS THAT MADE ME ILL (ONE OF ESTEE’S PICKS)
I wore a Marchesa dress to the 2011 People’s Choice Awards that was absolutely stunning: It was covered with this beautiful white flapper-style beading. I loved the hair and makeup too, because Melanie did a fabulous bright pink lip. I took my cousin as my date that night and won an award—I felt a little ill but chalked it up to nerves from the night. After, we all went to a big dinner, where I ultimately had to excuse myself because I just didn’t feel good. I headed back to my house with my cousin, changed out of my dress, and instantly felt better—it was only at that moment that my cousin picked up the dress and exclaimed how heavy it was. We weighed it, and it came in at more than twenty pounds! I was literally being pulled to the ground by my dress all night!
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Comfort
We’ve talked a lot in this chapter about how to look great at an important event, but it’s equally important that you feel comfortable. Because when you’re comfortable, you’re relaxed, which is a key ingredient to looking your best. If you slip on a gown and feel uncomfortable in the dressing room, then you’re certainly going to be uncomfortable at the end of a long post-event party. You have to be able to breathe, and you have to trust that your dress isn’t going to fall down or split up the back. And you need to be able to walk without limping! Every woman loves an amazing pair of shoes, but if they’re not going to be front and center, go for comfort instead. With most long dresses, nobody will ever see your heels, so there’s no point in destroying your feet. It’s much more elegant to be able to move around an event with ease.
WHAT WAS I THINKING?
At the beginning of Glee I went to the Fox Eco-Casino Party, and I picked out my dress myself: It looked like a rock ’n’ roll tutu! We did a red lip and long, black Morticia Addams extensions to match. I remember feeling confident that I looked hot, but when I look back now I cringe: too much hair, too much makeup, and a totally crazy dress. This was a perfect illustration of why it is often wise to focus on just one thing.
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The Spotlight
1. Never choose a dress that requires you to change yourself; find one that truly works for you, as you .
2. When trying on a gown, remember that if you don’t go to the dressing room all done up, you’ll be able to get an idea of the dress without hair and makeup.
3. Being comfortable will make you look even more beautiful. Obviously, we all want to look amazing and big-event-worthy, but if you don’t feel like you can move and hang out with ease, it’s not worth it.
4. Always pick something that’s timeless rather than trendy—you’ll be able to look back on it in a decade and still love how you looked.
5. Try to block out the noise when your friends are telling you that something looks great when it doesn’t feel right. You are the most important judge.
ESTEE STANLEY’S TEN RED CARPET TIPS FOR REAL-LIFE EVENTS
1. CHOOSE SOMETHING TIMELESS rather than trendy. Your money is much better spent investing in a great-quality dress that you can wear again and again, rather than on something that will look instantly dated.
2. VINTAGE CAN BE A GREAT OPTION if you’re on a budget. People dressed up a lot more back in the day, so you can often get a dress with a ton of character without spending a fortune. Plus, you can trust that no one else will be wearing the same dress!
3. Very few things fit perfectly right
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