overseas. She’s not going to find a prospective lover online,” Connor said.
“People do these days. It’s not unknown.”
“Would you?”
Julia swallowed a mouthful of wine. “I don’t know. It depends on the circumstances, the people involved. It’s not always easy to meet a compatible partner these days. People have busy lives. Where do you meet prospective lovers if you’re too busy with work?”
“I don’t know. I hadn’t really thought about it.” Connor finished his meal and pushed his plate away with an appreciative sigh. “Great meal. Thanks.” Julia had made him think. He didn’t know if Maggie was actively looking for another man or not. He wasn’t looking but that didn’t mean she couldn’t. The idea of her with another man made him…uneasy.
He wanted Maggie and didn’t want to lose her to another man.
Dear Kinky Lover,
How will I know I’ve found the right man? I don’t know. I guess finding a lover who is into spanking will be much like finding a life partner. Some men will suit me and others will suck. I know it’s not gonna be easy. You don’t have to warn me about safety and security. I know and believe me, I’ve taken it into consideration.
The thing that will probably get me is my impatience. I want this so much that I know I’ll have a tendency to rush into a relationship wearing blinkers.
Maybe, as you say, I’ll be disappointed because I’ve built things up in my mind and the reality won’t compare to my daydreams. I hope not. I’m a glass half-full kinda girl. I like to think positively, and hopefully, that’s all I’ll need.
Individuals are different and complex. We all go into relationships with our own set of baggage. I’ve already found that incorporating spanking into an existing relationship is difficult. My ex-boyfriend laughed at me and called me a freak. That’s part of the reason he’s now my ex.
We’re all fragile in our own way. It’s easy to misinterpret, which is why communication is so important. Everyone I’ve spoken to online stresses honest and open communication. Stating my needs isn’t easy though. I have a casual relationship and really like the guy. The sex is so good, but he made just one comment while we were making love that made me reconsider talking to him about spanking.
Patience is a thing I need to work on. I’ve had a long time to think about spanking and consider the implications. My prospective partners haven’t, unless they’re already into spanking. Another thing I’ve learned is that spanking isn’t a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. What is right for one couple won’t work for another.
See how much there is to consider. Don’t worry about me, Kinky Lover. I am considering all angles of this subject. I’m not going into spanking wearing rose-colored glasses. I appreciate your advice.
But one thing, you didn’t tell me how you discussed your spanking needs with your partner. How did you get your partner to see the advantages spanking can bring to a relationship?
Best wishes,
Big Bad Ass
Connor spluttered on reading the last line, swallowing his mouthful of coffee quickly before his computer screen wore it instead. How did he get his partner to see the advantages of spanking? He snorted a laugh, keeping far away from his coffee. He was the lucky son-of-a-bitch who had a partner who already wanted a spanking. The confusion was all on his side, along with hang-ups about hurting his partner or turning into a monster. Maybe it was time to visit his parents. Perhaps he could take Maggie with him. Introduce her as a friend. He’d mentioned her and the other girls to his parents before. They wouldn’t think much of it, not until he asked Frank about spanking.
The more he thought about it, the better he liked the idea. His mother had a birthday coming up soon. Perhaps he could wrangle invitations for all the girls. It would throw the heat off him a bit because his parents wouldn’t know which girl
“People do these days. It’s not unknown.”
“Would you?”
Julia swallowed a mouthful of wine. “I don’t know. It depends on the circumstances, the people involved. It’s not always easy to meet a compatible partner these days. People have busy lives. Where do you meet prospective lovers if you’re too busy with work?”
“I don’t know. I hadn’t really thought about it.” Connor finished his meal and pushed his plate away with an appreciative sigh. “Great meal. Thanks.” Julia had made him think. He didn’t know if Maggie was actively looking for another man or not. He wasn’t looking but that didn’t mean she couldn’t. The idea of her with another man made him…uneasy.
He wanted Maggie and didn’t want to lose her to another man.
Dear Kinky Lover,
How will I know I’ve found the right man? I don’t know. I guess finding a lover who is into spanking will be much like finding a life partner. Some men will suit me and others will suck. I know it’s not gonna be easy. You don’t have to warn me about safety and security. I know and believe me, I’ve taken it into consideration.
The thing that will probably get me is my impatience. I want this so much that I know I’ll have a tendency to rush into a relationship wearing blinkers.
Maybe, as you say, I’ll be disappointed because I’ve built things up in my mind and the reality won’t compare to my daydreams. I hope not. I’m a glass half-full kinda girl. I like to think positively, and hopefully, that’s all I’ll need.
Individuals are different and complex. We all go into relationships with our own set of baggage. I’ve already found that incorporating spanking into an existing relationship is difficult. My ex-boyfriend laughed at me and called me a freak. That’s part of the reason he’s now my ex.
We’re all fragile in our own way. It’s easy to misinterpret, which is why communication is so important. Everyone I’ve spoken to online stresses honest and open communication. Stating my needs isn’t easy though. I have a casual relationship and really like the guy. The sex is so good, but he made just one comment while we were making love that made me reconsider talking to him about spanking.
Patience is a thing I need to work on. I’ve had a long time to think about spanking and consider the implications. My prospective partners haven’t, unless they’re already into spanking. Another thing I’ve learned is that spanking isn’t a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. What is right for one couple won’t work for another.
See how much there is to consider. Don’t worry about me, Kinky Lover. I am considering all angles of this subject. I’m not going into spanking wearing rose-colored glasses. I appreciate your advice.
But one thing, you didn’t tell me how you discussed your spanking needs with your partner. How did you get your partner to see the advantages spanking can bring to a relationship?
Best wishes,
Big Bad Ass
Connor spluttered on reading the last line, swallowing his mouthful of coffee quickly before his computer screen wore it instead. How did he get his partner to see the advantages of spanking? He snorted a laugh, keeping far away from his coffee. He was the lucky son-of-a-bitch who had a partner who already wanted a spanking. The confusion was all on his side, along with hang-ups about hurting his partner or turning into a monster. Maybe it was time to visit his parents. Perhaps he could take Maggie with him. Introduce her as a friend. He’d mentioned her and the other girls to his parents before. They wouldn’t think much of it, not until he asked Frank about spanking.
The more he thought about it, the better he liked the idea. His mother had a birthday coming up soon. Perhaps he could wrangle invitations for all the girls. It would throw the heat off him a bit because his parents wouldn’t know which girl
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