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Orgasms
No one is sure of how many different types of orgasms there are, but everyone knows that not all orgasms are equal. Some are faster, lighter, deeper, longer, more intense, full body, localized, more emotional, or more physical. Lou Paget, in her book The Big O, lists ten distinct types of female orgasm: clitoral, vaginal, cervical, G-spot, urethral opening, anal, blended/fusion, zone (some area of the body), fantasy alone, breast/nipple, and mouth (an orgasm from a kiss).
Well, here’s what I think. Many people think both vaginal and cervical orgasms involve some clitoral or G-spot friction. Considering the layout of the vagina, how do you touch the cervix or the anterior wall of the vagina without touching the clitoral roots or G-spot? I have no clue. “Blended” means more than one of these areas stimulated at once, which seems like double counting. “Zone” means anywhere not listed in the other areas. This can happen, a great kiss on the neck for example. I’ve heard stories from women about this, but it’s not exactly a daily occurrence. “Fantasy-” induced orgasm is clearly possible as evidenced by orgasm dreams and the fact that all of these orgasms are in the mind no matter where we attribute them on the body. In 1992, Dr. Beverly Whipple, author of The G-Spot and president-elect of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, found that orgasms without any touch, from fantasy, are physically experienced as though touch-induced. Since all orgasms do happen in the mind, I suppose having one from a kiss (or “mouth orgasm” according to Paget) is possible. I am skeptical that 20 percent of all people have experienced one. If only it were that easy. Maybe we’re kissing the wrong people.
What all this really shows it that sex really is in your head. Whipple says that orgasm originating from the G-spot area uses different sensory pathways than clitoral orgasms. They are distinct and deeper. There’s a lot of research to be done still on how the nerves are connected to our various parts and our various orgasms. We all have a lot of exploring to do. You might have a spot on your thigh that will send you over the top (the T-spot?). Being touched on your neck might push you into spasms of ecstasy (the N-spot?).
No matter how it’s spelled, here are the ABCs of O: if you have one or a hundred spots that push you over the edge, congratulations. You don’t need ten different kinds of orgasms. You only need one to be happy, healthy, fulfilled, and content.
Salon Secrets
I didn’t think it was possible to have an orgasm without the standard making out and lots of rubbing. But I had an orgasm once when my boyfriend lightly touched me through my pants. It was his first move but I’d gotten so worked up in a very sexy conversation with him, I exploded the minute he touched me.
You know, there’s a spot on my neck that my husband finds. There’s something about the way he breathes on it, the way he kisses it. If he does that at the same time as he’s touching my clitoris, I have orgasms that leave me seeing spots.
When I was 24, I had the most amazing experience that I would like to have again. My boy friend was using two hands on me. One on the clitoris and the other swirling around inside me in circles near my cervix I think. I have never come like that before or since. It was the combination of his intensity and my mood I guess. I felt the orgasm through my whole pelvis. I think I felt it into my hipbones.
Come into Good Health
ORGASMS AND EVEN SIMPLE SEXUAL AROUSAL ARE NATURE’S PLEASURE PANACEA. SO LET YOUR LIBIDO LOOSE. COMING AGAIN, AND OFTEN, CAN HELP YOU:
Sleep better. Many people sleep more deeply and restfully after satisfying lovemaking or a solo flight. In the relaxing afterglow you may be able to let go of distracting thoughts. Being able to stop thinking has been known to help overcome insomnia.
Feel less stress. People having frequent sex often report
No one is sure of how many different types of orgasms there are, but everyone knows that not all orgasms are equal. Some are faster, lighter, deeper, longer, more intense, full body, localized, more emotional, or more physical. Lou Paget, in her book The Big O, lists ten distinct types of female orgasm: clitoral, vaginal, cervical, G-spot, urethral opening, anal, blended/fusion, zone (some area of the body), fantasy alone, breast/nipple, and mouth (an orgasm from a kiss).
Well, here’s what I think. Many people think both vaginal and cervical orgasms involve some clitoral or G-spot friction. Considering the layout of the vagina, how do you touch the cervix or the anterior wall of the vagina without touching the clitoral roots or G-spot? I have no clue. “Blended” means more than one of these areas stimulated at once, which seems like double counting. “Zone” means anywhere not listed in the other areas. This can happen, a great kiss on the neck for example. I’ve heard stories from women about this, but it’s not exactly a daily occurrence. “Fantasy-” induced orgasm is clearly possible as evidenced by orgasm dreams and the fact that all of these orgasms are in the mind no matter where we attribute them on the body. In 1992, Dr. Beverly Whipple, author of The G-Spot and president-elect of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, found that orgasms without any touch, from fantasy, are physically experienced as though touch-induced. Since all orgasms do happen in the mind, I suppose having one from a kiss (or “mouth orgasm” according to Paget) is possible. I am skeptical that 20 percent of all people have experienced one. If only it were that easy. Maybe we’re kissing the wrong people.
What all this really shows it that sex really is in your head. Whipple says that orgasm originating from the G-spot area uses different sensory pathways than clitoral orgasms. They are distinct and deeper. There’s a lot of research to be done still on how the nerves are connected to our various parts and our various orgasms. We all have a lot of exploring to do. You might have a spot on your thigh that will send you over the top (the T-spot?). Being touched on your neck might push you into spasms of ecstasy (the N-spot?).
No matter how it’s spelled, here are the ABCs of O: if you have one or a hundred spots that push you over the edge, congratulations. You don’t need ten different kinds of orgasms. You only need one to be happy, healthy, fulfilled, and content.
Salon Secrets
I didn’t think it was possible to have an orgasm without the standard making out and lots of rubbing. But I had an orgasm once when my boyfriend lightly touched me through my pants. It was his first move but I’d gotten so worked up in a very sexy conversation with him, I exploded the minute he touched me.
You know, there’s a spot on my neck that my husband finds. There’s something about the way he breathes on it, the way he kisses it. If he does that at the same time as he’s touching my clitoris, I have orgasms that leave me seeing spots.
When I was 24, I had the most amazing experience that I would like to have again. My boy friend was using two hands on me. One on the clitoris and the other swirling around inside me in circles near my cervix I think. I have never come like that before or since. It was the combination of his intensity and my mood I guess. I felt the orgasm through my whole pelvis. I think I felt it into my hipbones.
Come into Good Health
ORGASMS AND EVEN SIMPLE SEXUAL AROUSAL ARE NATURE’S PLEASURE PANACEA. SO LET YOUR LIBIDO LOOSE. COMING AGAIN, AND OFTEN, CAN HELP YOU:
Sleep better. Many people sleep more deeply and restfully after satisfying lovemaking or a solo flight. In the relaxing afterglow you may be able to let go of distracting thoughts. Being able to stop thinking has been known to help overcome insomnia.
Feel less stress. People having frequent sex often report
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