a pussycat and roared like a lion.
But have you said what’s really on your mind? What’s really, really, really on your mind? It’s time to find out.
Way back in Chapter 5, Exercise 3, I asked you to fearlessly conduct an erotic inventory of yourself and your needs. I asked you all kinds of questions about the kinds of sexy things you wanted to say, and how you would imagine yourself saying them. You’ve grown so much since then you may barely remember what you wrote, but I think it’s important to refresh your memory right now. So if you would, please take out your notebook and prepare for a little trip down memory lane.
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Exercise 24: I Want It
(SOLO)
Turn back in your notebook to Exercise 3: I Wish, I Want. Question 3 asked, “What sexy words and phrases do you wish you could say out loud?” Look at your answer to that question. Now read that answer out loud, exactly as it appears in your notebook. Read it over and over until you are comfortable saying everything you wrote.
Do the same thing with your answers to questions 7, 13, 14, and 16 in Exercise 3.
Are You Ready to Come Out and Play?
Exercise 24 concludes the first portion of our exercise program. If you have faithfully completed all twenty-four exercises, you have gone about as far as you can go flying solo. The remaining exercises in this book are all partner exercises, and that means it’s time to bring him aboard. But only if you’re ready . Talking sexy to yourself in front of a mirror is very different than talking sexy in front of another human being.
Loving this person with all of your heart, and knowing that he loves you, does not necessarily make it any easier. Fact is, for many people, it makes it a lot harder.
That’s why I need to make something very clear right now: If you are still feeling the slightest bit awkward or uncomfortable with all of the language you have been learning, there is no rea-118 / Talk Sexy to the One You Love
son to rush ahead. So don’t. Far better, in fact, to go back—to the very beginning if necessary—and give yourself all of the time and practice you need to feel truly comfortable.
The partner exercises that follow are very low pressure and very easy to follow, but you still have to be ready . If you’re not ready, don’t try to force yourself.
It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get comfortable.
Sooner or later, you will get comfortable. As far as I’m concerned, all that matters right now is that you are enjoying the process.
Of course, it’s also possible that you’re bursting at the seams by now; that you don’t think you can wait another minute to start sharing what you’ve learned.
Well, if that’s the case, don’t let me hold you back.
Turn the page and get going!
C H A P T E R 1 2
Partners in Crime
I T’S time to start talking sexy to the one you love.
Once you break the ice, you’re going to generate enough heat to melt icebergs. But how do you begin? What do you say first? When do you say it? And how do you get the courage?
Relax. The exercises in this chapter are going to help you utter your first words in the presence of a partner.
We’re going to start off slow— really slow—keeping the pressure at a minimum and the excitement at a maximum. By the time this chapter is over, you’ll feel so comfortable talking sexy in front of your partner you may never be silent again.
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Ground Rules for Getting Started
Before you and your partner begin your first exercise together, I need to make a few things clear. All of the partner exercises in this chapter, and in the remaining chapters of this book, are what I call “pressure-free, demand-free” partner exercises (the more clinical term is “nondemand interaction”). There is only one goal: learning how to talk sexy to your partner, and having fun doing it. These are exercises, not sex acts . Sex is never mandatory, and sexual pressure is a no-no. There are
But have you said what’s really on your mind? What’s really, really, really on your mind? It’s time to find out.
Way back in Chapter 5, Exercise 3, I asked you to fearlessly conduct an erotic inventory of yourself and your needs. I asked you all kinds of questions about the kinds of sexy things you wanted to say, and how you would imagine yourself saying them. You’ve grown so much since then you may barely remember what you wrote, but I think it’s important to refresh your memory right now. So if you would, please take out your notebook and prepare for a little trip down memory lane.
Kiss My What? / 117
Exercise 24: I Want It
(SOLO)
Turn back in your notebook to Exercise 3: I Wish, I Want. Question 3 asked, “What sexy words and phrases do you wish you could say out loud?” Look at your answer to that question. Now read that answer out loud, exactly as it appears in your notebook. Read it over and over until you are comfortable saying everything you wrote.
Do the same thing with your answers to questions 7, 13, 14, and 16 in Exercise 3.
Are You Ready to Come Out and Play?
Exercise 24 concludes the first portion of our exercise program. If you have faithfully completed all twenty-four exercises, you have gone about as far as you can go flying solo. The remaining exercises in this book are all partner exercises, and that means it’s time to bring him aboard. But only if you’re ready . Talking sexy to yourself in front of a mirror is very different than talking sexy in front of another human being.
Loving this person with all of your heart, and knowing that he loves you, does not necessarily make it any easier. Fact is, for many people, it makes it a lot harder.
That’s why I need to make something very clear right now: If you are still feeling the slightest bit awkward or uncomfortable with all of the language you have been learning, there is no rea-118 / Talk Sexy to the One You Love
son to rush ahead. So don’t. Far better, in fact, to go back—to the very beginning if necessary—and give yourself all of the time and practice you need to feel truly comfortable.
The partner exercises that follow are very low pressure and very easy to follow, but you still have to be ready . If you’re not ready, don’t try to force yourself.
It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get comfortable.
Sooner or later, you will get comfortable. As far as I’m concerned, all that matters right now is that you are enjoying the process.
Of course, it’s also possible that you’re bursting at the seams by now; that you don’t think you can wait another minute to start sharing what you’ve learned.
Well, if that’s the case, don’t let me hold you back.
Turn the page and get going!
C H A P T E R 1 2
Partners in Crime
I T’S time to start talking sexy to the one you love.
Once you break the ice, you’re going to generate enough heat to melt icebergs. But how do you begin? What do you say first? When do you say it? And how do you get the courage?
Relax. The exercises in this chapter are going to help you utter your first words in the presence of a partner.
We’re going to start off slow— really slow—keeping the pressure at a minimum and the excitement at a maximum. By the time this chapter is over, you’ll feel so comfortable talking sexy in front of your partner you may never be silent again.
120 / Talk Sexy to the One You Love
Ground Rules for Getting Started
Before you and your partner begin your first exercise together, I need to make a few things clear. All of the partner exercises in this chapter, and in the remaining chapters of this book, are what I call “pressure-free, demand-free” partner exercises (the more clinical term is “nondemand interaction”). There is only one goal: learning how to talk sexy to your partner, and having fun doing it. These are exercises, not sex acts . Sex is never mandatory, and sexual pressure is a no-no. There are
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