How to Make Love to a Woman by Xaviera Hollander Page A
Authors: Xaviera Hollander
Tags: Self-Help, Sexual Instruction
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Roquelaure (1987) An erotic fantasy that begins with Prince Charming waking the beautiful but sleeping Beauty, and his reward for waking her, and thus saving the kingdom, is that the King gives Prince Charming his daughter, Beauty, to be the Prince’s sex slave.
The Story of O by Pauline Réage (1993) A classic erotic novel about a dominant fashion photographer enslaving a beautiful young woman.
The Sexual Life of Catherine M. by Catherine Millet (2002) The New York Times calls this book “a candid, powerful and deeply intelligent depiction of unfettered sexuality”—it follows the slutty escapades of a talented and successful businesswoman.
Films are fun and faster than books, but we are talking about two different things here. Books stimulate a woman’s brain clit in a very different way than movies do, so make sure you don’t just focus on one or the other as a source of stimulation. Here are some of my favorites:
Lady Chatterly’s Lover with Sylvia Kristel (1981)
Nine ½ Weeks with Kim Basinger (1986)
Exotica with Mia Kirshner (1994)
Striptease with Demi Moore (1996)
Breaking the Waves with Emily Watson (1996)
Secretary with Maggie Gyllenhaal (2002)
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EXPERIMENT WITH EROTIC PROPS
over the years of doing the “Call Me Madame” column, I think I heard it all. Props are fun, but remember, the use of them should be aimed at enhancing the entire experience. If you happen to have some fascination with collecting pubic hairs, for example, you can’t assume that she will share your interest.
Start with the usual and see how keen she is to try them:
• cigarette holders
• sexy, smeary lipstick
• rubber, leather, stiletto heels, and whips
• hair elastic used in place of a cockring—one that, when stretched, fits around the balls and is sure to get you harder, longer
• enemas
• Ben Wa balls
• remote control “egg”—ask for this at your local sex shop and they’ll give you a selection, usually
• ice cubes and hot candle wax
Here’s a tip that will please you both: Use a silk scarf, or better yet, silk stockings. Put them around (or on) your hands and touch her all over. The sensation will be different and titillating . . . and when you are done, take the scarf, scarves, stocking or stockings, and tie them around your shaft. Make knots at the base so that when she rides you from on top, those same knots will stimulate her clit: pleasure for everyone.
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ACT OUT ROLE-PLAY SCENARIOS
Most women will agree that the private games that blossomed out of the seed of an innocent comment are the games that tickle our brain clits the most. As an example, a friend of mine, Gina, had a girlfriend over for lunch by the pool. The friend had never met Gina’s husband. She saw Gina’s bare-chested husband cleaning the pool and asked Gina if he was from her pool service. Gina answered, “Yes, and I have a major crush on him.”
She then poured their champagne and chatted about her fantasies of doing it with the pool dude, making sure he heard bits of it. When her husband just happened to call to her across the pool, addressing her as “Mrs. Holloway,” she couldn’t resist. To her friend’s horror (and to Gina and her husband’s great amusement), Gina walked around the pool and grabbed the pool man and engaged him in a very long kissing session. Gina returned to her friend and continued the ruse, her friend believing all the way along that the pool man was someone other than Gina’s husband. Gina and her husband ended up having very good sex that afternoon, after her friend’s departure, and ever after, one of their favorite games became ”Playing Pool-Dude and Mrs. Holloway.”
Here are a few time-tested roles to play for the idea-challenged:
• Nurse/Doctor
• Student/Teacher
• Stripper/Spectator
• Hooker/John
• Powerful Business Woman/Janitor or Male Secretary
• Bad Girl/Disciplinarian
• Disciplinarian/Bad Boy
• Secretary/Business Man
• Criminal/Police Officer (and vice versa)
•
The Story of O by Pauline Réage (1993) A classic erotic novel about a dominant fashion photographer enslaving a beautiful young woman.
The Sexual Life of Catherine M. by Catherine Millet (2002) The New York Times calls this book “a candid, powerful and deeply intelligent depiction of unfettered sexuality”—it follows the slutty escapades of a talented and successful businesswoman.
Films are fun and faster than books, but we are talking about two different things here. Books stimulate a woman’s brain clit in a very different way than movies do, so make sure you don’t just focus on one or the other as a source of stimulation. Here are some of my favorites:
Lady Chatterly’s Lover with Sylvia Kristel (1981)
Nine ½ Weeks with Kim Basinger (1986)
Exotica with Mia Kirshner (1994)
Striptease with Demi Moore (1996)
Breaking the Waves with Emily Watson (1996)
Secretary with Maggie Gyllenhaal (2002)
68
EXPERIMENT WITH EROTIC PROPS
over the years of doing the “Call Me Madame” column, I think I heard it all. Props are fun, but remember, the use of them should be aimed at enhancing the entire experience. If you happen to have some fascination with collecting pubic hairs, for example, you can’t assume that she will share your interest.
Start with the usual and see how keen she is to try them:
• cigarette holders
• sexy, smeary lipstick
• rubber, leather, stiletto heels, and whips
• hair elastic used in place of a cockring—one that, when stretched, fits around the balls and is sure to get you harder, longer
• enemas
• Ben Wa balls
• remote control “egg”—ask for this at your local sex shop and they’ll give you a selection, usually
• ice cubes and hot candle wax
Here’s a tip that will please you both: Use a silk scarf, or better yet, silk stockings. Put them around (or on) your hands and touch her all over. The sensation will be different and titillating . . . and when you are done, take the scarf, scarves, stocking or stockings, and tie them around your shaft. Make knots at the base so that when she rides you from on top, those same knots will stimulate her clit: pleasure for everyone.
69
ACT OUT ROLE-PLAY SCENARIOS
Most women will agree that the private games that blossomed out of the seed of an innocent comment are the games that tickle our brain clits the most. As an example, a friend of mine, Gina, had a girlfriend over for lunch by the pool. The friend had never met Gina’s husband. She saw Gina’s bare-chested husband cleaning the pool and asked Gina if he was from her pool service. Gina answered, “Yes, and I have a major crush on him.”
She then poured their champagne and chatted about her fantasies of doing it with the pool dude, making sure he heard bits of it. When her husband just happened to call to her across the pool, addressing her as “Mrs. Holloway,” she couldn’t resist. To her friend’s horror (and to Gina and her husband’s great amusement), Gina walked around the pool and grabbed the pool man and engaged him in a very long kissing session. Gina returned to her friend and continued the ruse, her friend believing all the way along that the pool man was someone other than Gina’s husband. Gina and her husband ended up having very good sex that afternoon, after her friend’s departure, and ever after, one of their favorite games became ”Playing Pool-Dude and Mrs. Holloway.”
Here are a few time-tested roles to play for the idea-challenged:
• Nurse/Doctor
• Student/Teacher
• Stripper/Spectator
• Hooker/John
• Powerful Business Woman/Janitor or Male Secretary
• Bad Girl/Disciplinarian
• Disciplinarian/Bad Boy
• Secretary/Business Man
• Criminal/Police Officer (and vice versa)
•
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