Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties: Do Your Relationships Produce Bondage or Joy? by Bill Banks, Susan Banks Page A
Authors: Bill Banks, Susan Banks
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control of his acquaintances will also develop added vulnerability to more evil soul-ties. He will find himself developing relationship problems with other acquaintances.
Loss of good health accompanied by infirmity .
Soul-ties of susceptibility to sickness or affliction may be inherited along with an ancestral soul-tie, often seen as a generational curse or spirit. Such ungodly soul-ties of sickness can exist alongside the godly soul-ties within a marriage, until cast out. For example my wife, Sue, experienced hair loss and fear of cancer after I had cancer because of her deep feelings for me. She became vulnerable through me.
It is readily observable that people who are bound by anger, fear, anxiety, and other emotional dysfunctions resulting from being inordinately controlled, become susceptible to disease.
And, of course, the most grievous side-effect,
Loss of closeness to the Father
This has all sorts of disastrous consequences, including obstacles and impediments to our walk with God, hardening our hearts toward God, shutting out the Lord’s voice in our daily lives, and erecting a wall between us and ministry of the Holy Spirit.
How do I know if another person is
attempting to gain control over my soul?
There are a few “gut-checks” that we can make in order to diagnose whether we are coming under control of another person.
For instance, one may notice that…
Someone else makes decisions or plans for your life
Someone else is being overly protective of you
Someone else is being threatened by any new friendships you make
Someone is exercising financial control over you – parents, bosses, debt.
In more extreme cases, you will find that someone has thoughts of harm commingled with thoughts of control. As the following Scripture makes clear, it is definitely possible for a mere man, motivated by evil, to do at least five things:
For ye suffer, if a man bring you into bondage , if a man devour you, if a man take of you, if a man exalt himself, if a man smite you on the face.
2 Cor. 11:20
These five things that those with evil intentions can do are:
Bring you into bondage;
Devour you, following the pattern of Satan, the “roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.” Thus, this individual is doing Satan’s work and is his agent;
Take from you that which is yours (wrong you, rob you of reputation, things, or your wife);
Exalt himself over you, thus putting you down;
Smite you, strike you, or hurt you, physically or emotionally.
Any or all of these may cause you to suffer, but Jesus wants to set you free from all such bondage and from its resultant suffering. That’s one of the main reasons that He came... to set the captives free !
Obsessive Thought Life
Another side-effect of an unhealthy soul-tie is an obsessive thought life. This is often characterized by a feeling of compulsion to be with or to see another person — e.g. “I can’t forget her!”; “I can’t get her out of my mind!”
The thought life consists of both the conscious and the unconscious.
Conscious Thought Life : where one is plagued with memories or thoughts of the other party, including fantasies or daydreams (not necessarily sexual fantasies, but they often seem to have a sexual aspect).
Unconscious Thought Life: dreams, nightmares, terrors. Individuals often complain about being unable to get the other person out of their thoughts or dreams. They may be tormented with nightmares or night terrors about the other party running their life, controlling them or even killing them.
What Do You Fear?
As mentioned, fear can be the stronghold, and the stranglehold, behind ungodly soul-ties. A strong presence of fear is a common side-effect of unhealthy relationships. It has been validly said that “the thing which we fear tends to become our God.”
By the same token, anything that serves to remove our fear can also become our God. Thus, we find many people worshiping and making an idol of money, which removes or alleviates the
Loss of good health accompanied by infirmity .
Soul-ties of susceptibility to sickness or affliction may be inherited along with an ancestral soul-tie, often seen as a generational curse or spirit. Such ungodly soul-ties of sickness can exist alongside the godly soul-ties within a marriage, until cast out. For example my wife, Sue, experienced hair loss and fear of cancer after I had cancer because of her deep feelings for me. She became vulnerable through me.
It is readily observable that people who are bound by anger, fear, anxiety, and other emotional dysfunctions resulting from being inordinately controlled, become susceptible to disease.
And, of course, the most grievous side-effect,
Loss of closeness to the Father
This has all sorts of disastrous consequences, including obstacles and impediments to our walk with God, hardening our hearts toward God, shutting out the Lord’s voice in our daily lives, and erecting a wall between us and ministry of the Holy Spirit.
How do I know if another person is
attempting to gain control over my soul?
There are a few “gut-checks” that we can make in order to diagnose whether we are coming under control of another person.
For instance, one may notice that…
Someone else makes decisions or plans for your life
Someone else is being overly protective of you
Someone else is being threatened by any new friendships you make
Someone is exercising financial control over you – parents, bosses, debt.
In more extreme cases, you will find that someone has thoughts of harm commingled with thoughts of control. As the following Scripture makes clear, it is definitely possible for a mere man, motivated by evil, to do at least five things:
For ye suffer, if a man bring you into bondage , if a man devour you, if a man take of you, if a man exalt himself, if a man smite you on the face.
2 Cor. 11:20
These five things that those with evil intentions can do are:
Bring you into bondage;
Devour you, following the pattern of Satan, the “roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.” Thus, this individual is doing Satan’s work and is his agent;
Take from you that which is yours (wrong you, rob you of reputation, things, or your wife);
Exalt himself over you, thus putting you down;
Smite you, strike you, or hurt you, physically or emotionally.
Any or all of these may cause you to suffer, but Jesus wants to set you free from all such bondage and from its resultant suffering. That’s one of the main reasons that He came... to set the captives free !
Obsessive Thought Life
Another side-effect of an unhealthy soul-tie is an obsessive thought life. This is often characterized by a feeling of compulsion to be with or to see another person — e.g. “I can’t forget her!”; “I can’t get her out of my mind!”
The thought life consists of both the conscious and the unconscious.
Conscious Thought Life : where one is plagued with memories or thoughts of the other party, including fantasies or daydreams (not necessarily sexual fantasies, but they often seem to have a sexual aspect).
Unconscious Thought Life: dreams, nightmares, terrors. Individuals often complain about being unable to get the other person out of their thoughts or dreams. They may be tormented with nightmares or night terrors about the other party running their life, controlling them or even killing them.
What Do You Fear?
As mentioned, fear can be the stronghold, and the stranglehold, behind ungodly soul-ties. A strong presence of fear is a common side-effect of unhealthy relationships. It has been validly said that “the thing which we fear tends to become our God.”
By the same token, anything that serves to remove our fear can also become our God. Thus, we find many people worshiping and making an idol of money, which removes or alleviates the
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