Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples by Jack Morin Ph.d. Page B
Authors: Jack Morin Ph.d.
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means to an end. Still others have a visceral negative reaction to douching. In some instances, the douche is a reminder of invasive and traumatic childhood enemas. Sometimes the sensations simply aren't pleasant, no matter what the reason. The bottom line: If anal douching makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. Sometimes, however, taking it slow and easy as you get used to the new sensations works wonders. Simply inserting your finger in your anus while showering can provide perfectly adequate cleanliness, especially when preparing for finger stimulation.
LUBRICATION
THE INNER PORTION of the anal canal produces mucus to keep the tissues moist and protected, but anal mucus is not the same as the plentiful lubrication secreted by the vagina. For this reason, extra lubrication should always be applied when you insert your finger or anything else into the anus.
Talking to anal enthusiasts about lubricants is like talking to wine connoisseurs about wine-everybody has a different opinion about which is best. You have to decide this for yourself. A few guiding principles, however, are helpful. First, use a lubricant with as few chemical additives as possible. Your anus and rectum are not as accustomed to a steady assault of harsh chemicals as the rest of your body. Scents, colors and emollients are all chemicals that can irritate anal tissues. Second, lotions and creams don't lubricate well because they're quickly absorbed. Water-soluble lubricants are good because they clean up easily. For this reason, they are the most convenient for anal exploring with your finger. And they're essential if you'll be using a latex condom, because oils or oil-based lubes destroy latex.
If you decide to try more prolonged anal stimulation, then greasy or oily lubricants have an advantage because they last longer. Vegetable shortening, safflower or peanut oil, petroleum jelly, or virtually any of the newer commercial erotic lubricants are all fine. It's a matter of personal preference. Water-soluble lubricants should probably be the only ones used in the vagina (if extra lubrication is desired or needed), because the vagina is a cul-de-sac from which heavy lubricants like petroleum jelly are difficult to wash out.
EXPERIENCE
BEGIN WITH bathing and anal looking and touching, which I hope you have tried many times by now. In preparation, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and filed smooth. Apply a small amount of lubricant to your anal opening and to whichever finger seems most comfortable.
Inhale deeply, contract your anal muscles, and gently press your finger against your anus. As you exhale, let your anal muscles relax until your finger slides easily into your anal canal. Use no more than a gentle pressure. Go in only as far as feels completely comfortable-a quarter of an inch at first is fine. If you feel discomfort or pain, it means that you are pushing too hard and should back off on the pressure.
When your finger is as far into your anus as it will comfortably go, stop there and let your anal muscles get used to the presence of your finger. Your anus will relax even more as it discovers this is not an invasion, but a friendly expedition. Be sure to keep breathing deeply and slowly. Feel the relaxation, but don't push your finger in any further. Stay at this comfort point for as long as you want and then slide your finger out slowly and sensuously.
Each time you repeat this exercise you'll discover that your finger comfortably goes in a little farther. At each step, spend a few minutes moving your finger at a leisurely pace in a circular motion. Stop before you feel uncomfortable or bored.
Experiment with moving your finger in and out, back and forth, and around in a circle. Try using your fingertip to gently press at different points around your anal canal. This helps to stretch your anal muscles a bit, just as you might stretch other muscles throughout your body. Never push beyond your personal comfort zone. Do only what your
LUBRICATION
THE INNER PORTION of the anal canal produces mucus to keep the tissues moist and protected, but anal mucus is not the same as the plentiful lubrication secreted by the vagina. For this reason, extra lubrication should always be applied when you insert your finger or anything else into the anus.
Talking to anal enthusiasts about lubricants is like talking to wine connoisseurs about wine-everybody has a different opinion about which is best. You have to decide this for yourself. A few guiding principles, however, are helpful. First, use a lubricant with as few chemical additives as possible. Your anus and rectum are not as accustomed to a steady assault of harsh chemicals as the rest of your body. Scents, colors and emollients are all chemicals that can irritate anal tissues. Second, lotions and creams don't lubricate well because they're quickly absorbed. Water-soluble lubricants are good because they clean up easily. For this reason, they are the most convenient for anal exploring with your finger. And they're essential if you'll be using a latex condom, because oils or oil-based lubes destroy latex.
If you decide to try more prolonged anal stimulation, then greasy or oily lubricants have an advantage because they last longer. Vegetable shortening, safflower or peanut oil, petroleum jelly, or virtually any of the newer commercial erotic lubricants are all fine. It's a matter of personal preference. Water-soluble lubricants should probably be the only ones used in the vagina (if extra lubrication is desired or needed), because the vagina is a cul-de-sac from which heavy lubricants like petroleum jelly are difficult to wash out.
EXPERIENCE
BEGIN WITH bathing and anal looking and touching, which I hope you have tried many times by now. In preparation, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and filed smooth. Apply a small amount of lubricant to your anal opening and to whichever finger seems most comfortable.
Inhale deeply, contract your anal muscles, and gently press your finger against your anus. As you exhale, let your anal muscles relax until your finger slides easily into your anal canal. Use no more than a gentle pressure. Go in only as far as feels completely comfortable-a quarter of an inch at first is fine. If you feel discomfort or pain, it means that you are pushing too hard and should back off on the pressure.
When your finger is as far into your anus as it will comfortably go, stop there and let your anal muscles get used to the presence of your finger. Your anus will relax even more as it discovers this is not an invasion, but a friendly expedition. Be sure to keep breathing deeply and slowly. Feel the relaxation, but don't push your finger in any further. Stay at this comfort point for as long as you want and then slide your finger out slowly and sensuously.
Each time you repeat this exercise you'll discover that your finger comfortably goes in a little farther. At each step, spend a few minutes moving your finger at a leisurely pace in a circular motion. Stop before you feel uncomfortable or bored.
Experiment with moving your finger in and out, back and forth, and around in a circle. Try using your fingertip to gently press at different points around your anal canal. This helps to stretch your anal muscles a bit, just as you might stretch other muscles throughout your body. Never push beyond your personal comfort zone. Do only what your
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